"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
add a "where to go for dates" forum :)
- Thread starter DragonChi
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Mr. Mystery
Master Don Juan
Its your first post and your asking for a new forum??
If you are curious for date ideas, post a question in Discussion on where you should go for some dates, or check out the bible.
Mr. Mystery
Giovanni Casanova
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ya thx for mak'in me feel welcome jackass......
but anyways i mean like i guess a section in the
tips sections for dates and stuff.....
i dunno like i collection of places to go or do.....
but i guess i'm newbie here so theres no point in my say'in anything......
Actually, stop acting like a drama queen and do a little exploring on this website....there is a compiled list of posts conveniently titled the Don Juan Bible. Sosuave DOES have an entire website outside this forum, on which there are MANY different sections filled with different tidbits and advice. There is even a search function for you to look for posts that might not be on the main website or in the DJ Bible.
The fact is that a large number of new people come here and don't do the proper research before making posts in this forum. Everything is almost there already, just not in pretty little boxes that different people like to organise them in.
Just do a search and a quick browse before posting next time...you'll find most of the answers already here.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Gosh it's only your second post and you are already flaming people.
You are right there is no point in saying anything if you are not willing to do the work before trying to put your two cents into what should be done here.
Take a look around before you start making "helpful" suggestions. You might find what you are looking for.
Liz
i got lots of posts that aren't related to what i was look'in for,
sorry for the flame,
and if a mod reads this, might as well delete the thread, ty,
this is a great place to feel good about urself and learn
how to LIVE.... instead of just pick up chicks,
i really apreciate all of this......
Mr. Mystery
Master Don Juan
He knows he introduced himself to us the wrong way but lets give him a break!
Its not that serious, lets move on...
Mr. Mystery