"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Activity Dates - Have to be skilled?

JRT123

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I played badminton earlier with a friend which led me to question whether activity dates are only advisable when you are actually good at the activity. I suppose being good at it would make you seem dominant etc. (I get the feeling that all women secretly or even overtly want a man who is better than them at physical tasks) and possibly help introduce kino (as you can get all flirty whilst physically coaching the girl on how to do the activity).

On the other hand if neither of you have tried the activity before and you're equally as bad then it might be funny.

Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Huffman

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True, but still a situation you can recover from - by not being a sore loser.

Before or while asking her out, you can find out if she's into xyz. If she has any sort of competitive strength, she'll usually mention it easily.
 

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Back when I sucked at golf I took a date to a driving range. She was a ...ahem... "big boned" girl.

Even though she told me she never golfed, she was knocking those balls all the way to the fence like she had been playing for years. I remember feeling very angry and embarrassed.

Best to be good at whatever activity you take her on for sure.
 

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It depends on the activity. Some games like tennis are a lot more fun when the two players are evenly matched. But if it's something like bowling, where you just sit there and don't have to go chase the ball every time you mess up, that would be better.

And part of it is keeping a grip on your own ego, and not needing to be competitive, or at least having fun with it whether you win or lose.
 

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It depends on the activity. Some games like tennis are a lot more fun when the two players are evenly matched. But if it's something like bowling, where you just sit there and don't have to go chase the ball every time you mess up, that would be better.

And part of it is keeping a grip on your own ego, and not needing to be competitive, or at least having fun with it whether you win or lose.
Bowling will be FUN for a low skill level.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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