"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Activity Dates - Have to be skilled?

JRT123

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I played badminton earlier with a friend which led me to question whether activity dates are only advisable when you are actually good at the activity. I suppose being good at it would make you seem dominant etc. (I get the feeling that all women secretly or even overtly want a man who is better than them at physical tasks) and possibly help introduce kino (as you can get all flirty whilst physically coaching the girl on how to do the activity).

On the other hand if neither of you have tried the activity before and you're equally as bad then it might be funny.

Thoughts?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Huffman

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True, but still a situation you can recover from - by not being a sore loser.

Before or while asking her out, you can find out if she's into xyz. If she has any sort of competitive strength, she'll usually mention it easily.
 

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Back when I sucked at golf I took a date to a driving range. She was a ...ahem... "big boned" girl.

Even though she told me she never golfed, she was knocking those balls all the way to the fence like she had been playing for years. I remember feeling very angry and embarrassed.

Best to be good at whatever activity you take her on for sure.
 

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It depends on the activity. Some games like tennis are a lot more fun when the two players are evenly matched. But if it's something like bowling, where you just sit there and don't have to go chase the ball every time you mess up, that would be better.

And part of it is keeping a grip on your own ego, and not needing to be competitive, or at least having fun with it whether you win or lose.
 

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It depends on the activity. Some games like tennis are a lot more fun when the two players are evenly matched. But if it's something like bowling, where you just sit there and don't have to go chase the ball every time you mess up, that would be better.

And part of it is keeping a grip on your own ego, and not needing to be competitive, or at least having fun with it whether you win or lose.
Bowling will be FUN for a low skill level.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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