"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Activity Dates - Have to be skilled?

JRT123

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I played badminton earlier with a friend which led me to question whether activity dates are only advisable when you are actually good at the activity. I suppose being good at it would make you seem dominant etc. (I get the feeling that all women secretly or even overtly want a man who is better than them at physical tasks) and possibly help introduce kino (as you can get all flirty whilst physically coaching the girl on how to do the activity).

On the other hand if neither of you have tried the activity before and you're equally as bad then it might be funny.

Thoughts?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Huffman

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True, but still a situation you can recover from - by not being a sore loser.

Before or while asking her out, you can find out if she's into xyz. If she has any sort of competitive strength, she'll usually mention it easily.
 

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Back when I sucked at golf I took a date to a driving range. She was a ...ahem... "big boned" girl.

Even though she told me she never golfed, she was knocking those balls all the way to the fence like she had been playing for years. I remember feeling very angry and embarrassed.

Best to be good at whatever activity you take her on for sure.
 

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It depends on the activity. Some games like tennis are a lot more fun when the two players are evenly matched. But if it's something like bowling, where you just sit there and don't have to go chase the ball every time you mess up, that would be better.

And part of it is keeping a grip on your own ego, and not needing to be competitive, or at least having fun with it whether you win or lose.
 

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It depends on the activity. Some games like tennis are a lot more fun when the two players are evenly matched. But if it's something like bowling, where you just sit there and don't have to go chase the ball every time you mess up, that would be better.

And part of it is keeping a grip on your own ego, and not needing to be competitive, or at least having fun with it whether you win or lose.
Bowling will be FUN for a low skill level.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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