"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Activities to ''upgrade you'' - Improve yourself

Von

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Often we talk about improvement of the ''self''.... Curious what you guys activities are... passions or stuff you learn to give yourself a social edge

Myself:

- Gym
- Dance with competitions
- Work
- Attend alot of Dance,Painting,Musical activities (exhibitions, concert)
- Wine workshop
- Alot of self-improvement and finance reading

What you think could ''improve'' your game in the eyes of society or just yourself
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Reading and gym for sure.

I also like to use MIT open course ware just to look at stuff im interested in
 

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Off of what OlympicTim said, when i have a lot of free time, you can find free college courses from places like Harvard, Yale, Northwestern, anywhere really. On a wide variety of topics. Sit in your house and chill with a beer or coffee while dropping some ledge on yourself.

Finances are big. I used to be terrible with money until i started to learn more about it and manage my expenses better. The app Mint is amazing for this. I buy everything with my debit card now so i can view every little expense on there and categorize it.
 

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Learn how to play the guitar (acoustic at least). Just like getting in the best shape possible.... IT ONLY BENEFITS YOU AND THERE ARE NO DOWNSIDE EFFECTS...
 

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Learn how to play the guitar (acoustic at least). Just like getting in the best shape possible.... IT ONLY BENEFITS YOU AND THERE ARE NO DOWNSIDE EFFECTS...
I don't know, there's risk of serious injury playing the guitar. Life is a precious gift. Don't get too crazy, it's not worth the risk.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Focus, reflection, critical thinking, alone time, seeking knowledge and wisdom.

Also, making music, playing strategy video games (rts), walking 3 miles daily.
 

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Learn how to play the guitar (acoustic at least). Just like getting in the best shape possible.... IT ONLY BENEFITS YOU AND THERE ARE NO DOWNSIDE EFFECTS...
Been playing guitar for 15 years, I killed my elbow and finger joints and developed bad tendinitis. I had to stop during 6 months at some point because of the tendinitis. Warm up before you play. No joke.

To answer OP: reading, meditation, work, running and mountaineering, work-out and a lot of photography.
 

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Lifting, reading, basketball, watching spurs games / basketball games, hanging with the fam, hiking / exploring, off road biking, learning something new.

I try to find something I've never done before every day, in order to learn and enrich myself. Today, it happened to be about burns because I got a pretty nasty one.
Spurs were beaten tonight agains Dortmund....0-2

.....out of Europe now...
 

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Volunteer, become involved in local nonprofits.

Lots of girls are involved, plus it allows you to explore different social groups and make new friends. It just flat out gives you more to do in your life.
 

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Reading & exercise for me.

When people talk about improvement on here, the above two pop up a lot.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lost respect for any Spurs fan on this forum :p

Only one team in North London, even though were absolute sh1thouse atm lol

Martial arts, reading, learning new things and ideas.
 

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Acting lessons.
I improved my confidence and social skills, which beneffited all facets of my life.
This will give you the social edge.
 

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I think work should always be on this list. And if you don't care about your job, you should have a tangible plan to get one where you do care. Example, I work in a shop as a sales assistant, decent pay but I don't get commission. I'm not passionate about this job but am planning to progress into estate agency.
 

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Gym, reading, knife and blade maintenance/sharpening, shoe conditioning and maintenance, absorbing sh!tton info about my car and common models from the forums and ocassionaly fixing some nuts and bolts. Long hikes into the woods.
 

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Yoga, boxing, biking.... but I turn 50 next year and boxing is starting to become problematic. Not too many middle age guys do this, so I'm always up against much younger men and I sort of getting tired of getting the poo beat out of me. The boxing work-outs are the best, I just need to hang up my gloves or risk brain damage.

I love the study of languages.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I believe going to the gym is like reading SS.. It has all core for every good aspects in improvements. Not just to impress the bishes. Youll learn to work hard, get the jobs done, being consistent, set goals and pretty much everything. So its probably the best for starters..
 

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Yoga, boxing, biking.... but I turn 50 next year and boxing is starting to become problematic. Not too many middle age guys do this, so I'm always up against much younger men and I sort of getting tired of getting the poo beat out of me. The boxing work-outs are the best, I just need to hang up my gloves or risk brain damage.

I love the study of languages.
Comment va le français mon pote?
 

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My big thing this year is self control.
It's amazing how much strength it takes to control your mind and control your habits.

Managing my finances.

Hiking

Volunteer

Be a better father, no matter how great you are, you can always be better.

Gym is like DJ 101

Stop being caught off guard when girls hit on me, happens somewhat often but always feel foreign

No fapping, no porn, ever. Talk about self control.
 

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Mon francais est bon , mais je besoin de plus pratique.

Mein Deutsch ist viel besser.

Ahora estoy aprendiendo espanol , qui es mas util en el USA.
t'as besoin de plus de pratique....c'est normal. Moi je trouve que lire est la meilleur façon de maintenir une langue....quand t'peux pas bavarder bien sûr! surtout avec l'audio...
http://www.litteratureaudio.com

Que guay que estés aprendiendo el castellano tío! y como has dicho, es hablado mucho en tu país, así que debería ser más fácil practicarlo....puedes matar dos pájaros de un tiro....practicar y ligar....

....no tengo ni puta idea de aleman! jajajajajaja
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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