"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Action date at the club?

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So I called this myspace ***** out of boredom to set something up, and she said she wanted something exciting when I mentioned hanging out at the movies (this would be our second date). So she suggested we go to the club in the city. I'm not attracted to her, so I figure it would be fun for me to mingle with other girls at the club, so I said why not.

Should I go ahead and use her to get other girls or is she just wanting to dance with me? Either way, it'll be fun for me since I've never been to a club.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Use her to get other girls? I wouldn't even goto the trouble to setup a date with this girl if you aren't attracted to her. You can always start up a conversation with girls at the club, which will get just as much attention.

It sounds like to me that you're overthinking things a lot. Just go out, have fun, and talk to some women. Having another girl with you isn't necessarily going to get you 'in' with other girls.
 
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Vanilla said:
So she suggested we go to the club in the city. I'm not attracted to her, so I figure it would be fun for me to mingle with other girls at the club, so I said why not.

Should I go ahead and use her to get other girls or is she just wanting to dance with me? Either way, it'll be fun for me since I've never been to a club.
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Never been to a club? Ouch.

Maybe she's using you to make other guys at the club jealous.
 
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DonJuan11 said:
Never been to a club? Ouch.

Maybe she's using you to make other guys at the club jealous.
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I haven't been since I would feel weird going by myself. She did sound excited that I wanted to go, but I was thinking it was just because she gets a chance to look at the other guys. Clearly I'm wrong about that and I thank you guys ahead of time.
 
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