"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Acting needy / desperate around friends

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DJnoob

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Does anyone here do this? Whats your point of view about acting around friends.
I kinda sense sometimes that when you act desperate around guy friends and girl friends they can tell.. and don't like friends like that.

What you guys think?>

For example:
You get a text message from a girl, do you respond to it right away or do you wait a while then reply back
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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im afraid to be alone and not have friends.
Thats just how i feel in the core. Im posting things like this here cause no one knows me here. LoL, i would never tell a single soul about this offline. This is the only place where i can talk about random things like this
 
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super, how do you act around your guy friends and girl friends?

"fear of loss is the path to the darkside" i like that a lot.. It's kinda true...

THis from yoda?
 
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Do you have to have "worth/value" something to have more friends?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by DJnoob
Do you have to have "worth/value" something to have more friends?
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Listen man, I know where you're coming from. It's not about how many friends you have, its the character that your friends possess, their compatiblity with your personality and how happy you are hanging out with them. The same as with girls right? I don't have alot of friends bc most ppl bore me to death and do the same shheet every weekend.....plus the fact that my old friends perma-flaked on me bc they were jealous, but that's another story.
 
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hey broham.. Ok guy friends i have but girl friends i dont...

Do you guys think girls need to have even the smallest amount of attraction to be EVEN JUST a friend to you?
 
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Do you guys think girls need to have even the smallest amount of attraction to be EVEN JUST a friend to you?
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why does this matter watsoever??!
 
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because i need to know =). I really need to know badly, its one of those "mysteries of the universe for me"
 
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Originally posted by DJnoob
hey broham.. Ok guy friends i have but girl friends i dont...

Do you guys think girls need to have even the smallest amount of attraction to be EVEN JUST a friend to you?
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Depends how shallow they are. I tend to hang out with attractive people (guys and girls) but I am pretty shallow :) But with friends in general you really can be yourself. So long as you're not a complete ashole.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't know bout acting desperate around friends...cos I don't...but you're really acting desperate on this forum mate...chill out!
 
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