"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Acting needy / desperate around friends

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Does anyone here do this? Whats your point of view about acting around friends.
I kinda sense sometimes that when you act desperate around guy friends and girl friends they can tell.. and don't like friends like that.

What you guys think?>

For example:
You get a text message from a girl, do you respond to it right away or do you wait a while then reply back
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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im afraid to be alone and not have friends.
Thats just how i feel in the core. Im posting things like this here cause no one knows me here. LoL, i would never tell a single soul about this offline. This is the only place where i can talk about random things like this
 
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super, how do you act around your guy friends and girl friends?

"fear of loss is the path to the darkside" i like that a lot.. It's kinda true...

THis from yoda?
 
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Do you have to have "worth/value" something to have more friends?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by DJnoob
Do you have to have "worth/value" something to have more friends?
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Listen man, I know where you're coming from. It's not about how many friends you have, its the character that your friends possess, their compatiblity with your personality and how happy you are hanging out with them. The same as with girls right? I don't have alot of friends bc most ppl bore me to death and do the same shheet every weekend.....plus the fact that my old friends perma-flaked on me bc they were jealous, but that's another story.
 
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hey broham.. Ok guy friends i have but girl friends i dont...

Do you guys think girls need to have even the smallest amount of attraction to be EVEN JUST a friend to you?
 
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Do you guys think girls need to have even the smallest amount of attraction to be EVEN JUST a friend to you?
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why does this matter watsoever??!
 
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because i need to know =). I really need to know badly, its one of those "mysteries of the universe for me"
 
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Originally posted by DJnoob
hey broham.. Ok guy friends i have but girl friends i dont...

Do you guys think girls need to have even the smallest amount of attraction to be EVEN JUST a friend to you?
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Depends how shallow they are. I tend to hang out with attractive people (guys and girls) but I am pretty shallow :) But with friends in general you really can be yourself. So long as you're not a complete ashole.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't know bout acting desperate around friends...cos I don't...but you're really acting desperate on this forum mate...chill out!
 
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