Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I think the "secret" is to act interested without caring. Its ok tooneboy21 said:If i act dis-interested in a girl, will that be any help.
Like throwing some negs and acting totally dis-interested. the girl i am about to meet has Low IL.
what would be the best way to deal with this.
yes. Yes. YES!st_99 said:I think the "secret" is to act interested without caring. Its ok to
let a girl know you're interested, but you GENUINELY can't care about any
reaction from her.
You can't pretend to not care, you really cant care.
Easy to say, hard to pull off, but its the holy grail.
Good advice! Learn how to not care whether a single woman likes you or not. There will be others out there, right?st_99 said:I think the "secret" is to act interested without caring. Its ok to
let a girl know you're interested, but you GENUINELY can't care about any
reaction from her.
You can't pretend to not care, you really cant care.
Easy to say, hard to pull off, but its the holy grail.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah, that's exactly true! What I've learned is that how you handle your own feelings and react with them can really influence your attractiveness and success as a man. I'm not saying it's not hard to do.maverick72 said:But here is the catch. You cannot turn your feelings on and off for a girl. You either have feelings for a girl or you don't. I try to avoid the "caring feelings" as much as I can, but sometimes it gets the best of me. Other times, it feels great to go out with a hot girl knowing I could care less if I see this girl again because it puts me in the drivers seat. That is when I get laid the most.