That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Who the fvck said anything about dressing or emulating a circus clown Mr. Unpronouncable?meitenesrigas said:If you need rings, necklaces, furry hats, and makeup you probably have some big issues you need to workout before you do anything else. Personally, I think all that stuff makes you look as gay as AIDS.
KarmaSutra said:Though Dong's point is valid, I don't agree. A lot of guys use thier external self image as a crutch to motivate them and build confidence. Is this the Karmic Method? No. But there is nothing wrong with a brother using a prop to better position himself to taking that first step towards understanding himself and laying his foundation.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
KarmaSutra said:Who the fvck said anything about dressing or emulating a circus clown Mr. Unpronouncable?
Obviously you reference Mystery and his methodology of dressing like a fruity chick to get chicks but not everything is so goddamned cut and dry.
Use your ears to listen to what your mind is saying before typing idiocy.
I'm not angry at you. Do not make that mistake. That would entail me giving a sh!t, which I do not. Repeatedly you've posted incomprehensible rabble but what does piss me off is that you don't have the testicular fortitude to sac up and admit that what you post will NOT put you or anyone else on the path of maturity.meitenesrigas said:Well, we both have different goals. Your anger is simply the result of your location. I can't get angry at you, and you won't drag me into a silly Internet feud. If I was in your shoes I would probably be a danger to myself. So, no hard feelings. Ataa!!
KarmaSutra said:I'm not angry at you. Do not make that mistake. That would entail me giving a sh!t, which I do not. Repeatedly you've posted incomprehensible rabble but what does piss me off is that you don't have the testicular fortitude to sac up and admit that what you post will NOT put you or anyone else on the path of maturity.
If you were in my shoes you'd have respect for yourself instead of vying for attention.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Daddy The Pimp said:Why everyone here says YOU DONT NEED ACCESSORIES , YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOUR INNER GAME BLLAH BLLAH BLLAH ? .
Cmon guys , offer something good . Looking good its not just for womens . I wanna look good firstly for myself . He's just askin a question .
Anyone noticing the similarities? Remember you'll never have true gaming abilities until you're complacent with yourself prior.PRMoon said:Wear whatever you want. Rings, bracelets, necklaces, watches, hats. As long as you're comfortable with that look and you feel your outter appearence is an expression of your inner self, then you're on the right track. Don't ever dress because you think it will make people you don't know happy. I can't emphisize this enough.