You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Who the fvck said anything about dressing or emulating a circus clown Mr. Unpronouncable?meitenesrigas said:If you need rings, necklaces, furry hats, and makeup you probably have some big issues you need to workout before you do anything else. Personally, I think all that stuff makes you look as gay as AIDS.
KarmaSutra said:Though Dong's point is valid, I don't agree. A lot of guys use thier external self image as a crutch to motivate them and build confidence. Is this the Karmic Method? No. But there is nothing wrong with a brother using a prop to better position himself to taking that first step towards understanding himself and laying his foundation.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
KarmaSutra said:Who the fvck said anything about dressing or emulating a circus clown Mr. Unpronouncable?
Obviously you reference Mystery and his methodology of dressing like a fruity chick to get chicks but not everything is so goddamned cut and dry.
Use your ears to listen to what your mind is saying before typing idiocy.
I'm not angry at you. Do not make that mistake. That would entail me giving a sh!t, which I do not. Repeatedly you've posted incomprehensible rabble but what does piss me off is that you don't have the testicular fortitude to sac up and admit that what you post will NOT put you or anyone else on the path of maturity.meitenesrigas said:Well, we both have different goals. Your anger is simply the result of your location. I can't get angry at you, and you won't drag me into a silly Internet feud. If I was in your shoes I would probably be a danger to myself. So, no hard feelings. Ataa!!
KarmaSutra said:I'm not angry at you. Do not make that mistake. That would entail me giving a sh!t, which I do not. Repeatedly you've posted incomprehensible rabble but what does piss me off is that you don't have the testicular fortitude to sac up and admit that what you post will NOT put you or anyone else on the path of maturity.
If you were in my shoes you'd have respect for yourself instead of vying for attention.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Daddy The Pimp said:Why everyone here says YOU DONT NEED ACCESSORIES , YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOUR INNER GAME BLLAH BLLAH BLLAH ? .
Cmon guys , offer something good . Looking good its not just for womens . I wanna look good firstly for myself . He's just askin a question .
Anyone noticing the similarities? Remember you'll never have true gaming abilities until you're complacent with yourself prior.PRMoon said:Wear whatever you want. Rings, bracelets, necklaces, watches, hats. As long as you're comfortable with that look and you feel your outter appearence is an expression of your inner self, then you're on the right track. Don't ever dress because you think it will make people you don't know happy. I can't emphisize this enough.