She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Who the fvck said anything about dressing or emulating a circus clown Mr. Unpronouncable?meitenesrigas said:If you need rings, necklaces, furry hats, and makeup you probably have some big issues you need to workout before you do anything else. Personally, I think all that stuff makes you look as gay as AIDS.
KarmaSutra said:Though Dong's point is valid, I don't agree. A lot of guys use thier external self image as a crutch to motivate them and build confidence. Is this the Karmic Method? No. But there is nothing wrong with a brother using a prop to better position himself to taking that first step towards understanding himself and laying his foundation.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
KarmaSutra said:Who the fvck said anything about dressing or emulating a circus clown Mr. Unpronouncable?
Obviously you reference Mystery and his methodology of dressing like a fruity chick to get chicks but not everything is so goddamned cut and dry.
Use your ears to listen to what your mind is saying before typing idiocy.
I'm not angry at you. Do not make that mistake. That would entail me giving a sh!t, which I do not. Repeatedly you've posted incomprehensible rabble but what does piss me off is that you don't have the testicular fortitude to sac up and admit that what you post will NOT put you or anyone else on the path of maturity.meitenesrigas said:Well, we both have different goals. Your anger is simply the result of your location. I can't get angry at you, and you won't drag me into a silly Internet feud. If I was in your shoes I would probably be a danger to myself. So, no hard feelings. Ataa!!
KarmaSutra said:I'm not angry at you. Do not make that mistake. That would entail me giving a sh!t, which I do not. Repeatedly you've posted incomprehensible rabble but what does piss me off is that you don't have the testicular fortitude to sac up and admit that what you post will NOT put you or anyone else on the path of maturity.
If you were in my shoes you'd have respect for yourself instead of vying for attention.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Daddy The Pimp said:Why everyone here says YOU DONT NEED ACCESSORIES , YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOUR INNER GAME BLLAH BLLAH BLLAH ? .
Cmon guys , offer something good . Looking good its not just for womens . I wanna look good firstly for myself . He's just askin a question .
Anyone noticing the similarities? Remember you'll never have true gaming abilities until you're complacent with yourself prior.PRMoon said:Wear whatever you want. Rings, bracelets, necklaces, watches, hats. As long as you're comfortable with that look and you feel your outter appearence is an expression of your inner self, then you're on the right track. Don't ever dress because you think it will make people you don't know happy. I can't emphisize this enough.