Centy
Don Juan
why do people think that grad-school is such a huge thing? It's not. Get over it!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
it's called making yourself better off.Originally posted by Centy
why do people think that grad-school is such a huge thing? It's not. Get over it!
actually this is a tricky question.Originally posted by So Many Ways
I have a question regarding grad school. I have considered getting an MS in Computer Science. As an undergrad, my grades were admittedly poor (GPA well below 3.0, JC transfer to Cal State school). Is grad school even an option for someone in my position?
Alright, thanks for answering my question. Now my second question is this. Professionally, do you believe there is a significant benefit to pursuing an MS in Computer Science? Basically I want to get into hard core coding. I majored in CIS in college and did some web development and programming work and now I'm doing system admin work, which is not what I went to school for and very unchallenging. Is this a good avenue to pursue in order to achieve that objective?Originally posted by Le Parisien
actually this is a tricky question.
Normally, all the "respectable" institutions (not some Pheonix online university or scams like that) will require a minimum of 3.0 GPA for a MS in Computer Science. But something below doesn'y make it impossible.
I was admitted with a GPA that was equivalent to something between B- and C+, but the circumstances were special.
I was from the French system, the grading criteria in Feance are way tougher (for example, an average student usually only get 10 out of 20, and 16 out of 20 is the highest reasonably achievable score).
Actually I got rejected at the first place, then the secretary from my French school sent an email to the department in the US explaining that a French B- is NOT an American B- and blabla... Also they had a French student the previous year from my school with similar French GPA. He did pretty well at the American university so they kinda knew it wasn't just bullsh*t. They probably still got some openings so I eventually got admitted, I received my admission for fall 2002 only in June 2002..
Anyway, they didn't get tricked, since I will be graduating with a GPA of 3.5. Hey, the American curriculum are just TOO easy, I didn't even study that much.![]()
So the point is: still give it a try if you really want to do it, you have nothing to lose anyway.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yes to the MS. It's only 18-24 months. Only get a PhD if you find you love research. If not (the answer was no for me) bail and use those 5 years that would've been wasted on a PhD for making $$$.Originally posted by So Many Ways
Now my second question is this. Professionally, do you believe there is a significant benefit to pursuing an MS in Computer Science? Basically I want to get into hard core coding.
Thanks.