Centy
Don Juan
why do people think that grad-school is such a huge thing? It's not. Get over it!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Academics, grad school...
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
it's called making yourself better off.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
This is a great thread. This is some serious knowledge being passed along here. I think I'm going to post more on this board.
I have a question regarding grad school. I have considered getting an MS in Computer Science. As an undergrad, my grades were admittedly poor (GPA well below 3.0, JC transfer to Cal State school). Is grad school even an option for someone in my position?
I have a question regarding grad school. I have considered getting an MS in Computer Science. As an undergrad, my grades were admittedly poor (GPA well below 3.0, JC transfer to Cal State school). Is grad school even an option for someone in my position?
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
actually this is a tricky question.
Normally, all the "respectable" institutions (not some Pheonix online university or scams like that) will require a minimum of 3.0 GPA for a MS in Computer Science. But something below doesn'y make it impossible.
I was admitted with a GPA that was equivalent to something between B- and C+, but the circumstances were special.
I was from the French system, the grading criteria in Feance are way tougher (for example, an average student usually only get 10 out of 20, and 16 out of 20 is the highest reasonably achievable score).
Actually I got rejected at the first place, then the secretary from my French school sent an email to the department in the US explaining that a French B- is NOT an American B- and blabla... Also they had a French student the previous year from my school with similar French GPA. He did pretty well at the American university so they kinda knew it wasn't just bullsh*t. They probably still got some openings so I eventually got admitted, I received my admission for fall 2002 only in June 2002.
.Anyway, they didn't get tricked, since I will be graduating with a GPA of 3.5. Hey, the American curriculum are just TOO easy, I didn't even study that much.
So the point is: still give it a try if you really want to do it, you have nothing to lose anyway.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
Alright, thanks for answering my question. Now my second question is this. Professionally, do you believe there is a significant benefit to pursuing an MS in Computer Science? Basically I want to get into hard core coding. I majored in CIS in college and did some web development and programming work and now I'm doing system admin work, which is not what I went to school for and very unchallenging. Is this a good avenue to pursue in order to achieve that objective?Originally posted by Le Parisien
actually this is a tricky question.
Normally, all the "respectable" institutions (not some Pheonix online university or scams like that) will require a minimum of 3.0 GPA for a MS in Computer Science. But something below doesn'y make it impossible.
I was admitted with a GPA that was equivalent to something between B- and C+, but the circumstances were special.
I was from the French system, the grading criteria in Feance are way tougher (for example, an average student usually only get 10 out of 20, and 16 out of 20 is the highest reasonably achievable score).
Actually I got rejected at the first place, then the secretary from my French school sent an email to the department in the US explaining that a French B- is NOT an American B- and blabla... Also they had a French student the previous year from my school with similar French GPA. He did pretty well at the American university so they kinda knew it wasn't just bullsh*t. They probably still got some openings so I eventually got admitted, I received my admission for fall 2002 only in June 2002.
Anyway, they didn't get tricked, since I will be graduating with a GPA of 3.5. Hey, the American curriculum are just TOO easy, I didn't even study that much.
So the point is: still give it a try if you really want to do it, you have nothing to lose anyway.
Thanks.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Women in graduate school.
Tao - what you describe in your post is not what I'd call a fair description. But, if that's what you see when you look at them, perhaps you should change your playground.
So Many Ways - Grad School is always an option. My university will take anybody. www.usouthal.edu They won't necessarily keep you; that's up to you. I had a 2.3 undergrad in business. I've got a 4.0 in CS grad school. It's much easier when you actually attend class and study.
Tao - what you describe in your post is not what I'd call a fair description. But, if that's what you see when you look at them, perhaps you should change your playground.
So Many Ways - Grad School is always an option. My university will take anybody. www.usouthal.edu They won't necessarily keep you; that's up to you. I had a 2.3 undergrad in business. I've got a 4.0 in CS grad school. It's much easier when you actually attend class and study.
stevera004
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Yes to the MS. It's only 18-24 months. Only get a PhD if you find you love research. If not (the answer was no for me) bail and use those 5 years that would've been wasted on a PhD for making $$$.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
I appreciate the feedback yall. Thanks.