"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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About to become single for the first time in 2 years, what's the dating scene like 30+?

Brighty

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I'm actually a little fvcking nervous believe it or not because of all the horror stories I read online (written by mostly women, obviously) of how ****ty it is to be 30+ and single. Feels kind of daunting - I've been in a relationship for about two years now since I was 28 and it feels like I'm getting divorced or some sh!t. I feel old now lmao.

But honestly, from the DJs who get it - what's the dating scene like for a man who's 6'4, good looking, athletic, and makes over six figures? I feel like I should check most of the boxes at this point but who's to say really? What was your guys' experience like?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mrgoodstuff

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I'm actually a little fvcking nervous believe it or not because of all the horror stories I read online (written by mostly women, obviously) of how ****ty it is to be 30+ and single. Feels kind of daunting - I've been in a relationship for about three years now since I was 27 and it feels like I'm getting divorced or some ****. I'm old now lmao.

But honestly, from the DJs who get it - what's the dating scene like for a man who's 6'4, good looking, athletic, and makes over six figures? I feel like I should check most of the boxes at this point but who's to say really? What was your guys' experience like?
Your like a powerful and sleek designed computer or phone that's stand alone, not on a network.
 

manfrombelow

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what's the dating scene like for a man who's 6'4, good looking, athletic, and makes over six figures? I feel like I should check most of the boxes at this point but who's to say really? What was your guys' experience like?
Relax man. You are having a much bigger arsenal than many guys out there.
 

Lookatu

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I'm actually a little fvcking nervous believe it or not because of all the horror stories I read online (written by mostly women, obviously) of how ****ty it is to be 30+ and single.
Welcome.
Be glad you discovered SS first of all. Knowing is half the battle.

And since you recently got out of a relationship. Biggest thing is to get your mind our of the relationship mode and get into the dating mode again. This is one of the mistakes I see a lot of guys making.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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