"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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About to become single for the first time in 2 years, what's the dating scene like 30+?

Brighty

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I'm actually a little fvcking nervous believe it or not because of all the horror stories I read online (written by mostly women, obviously) of how ****ty it is to be 30+ and single. Feels kind of daunting - I've been in a relationship for about two years now since I was 28 and it feels like I'm getting divorced or some sh!t. I feel old now lmao.

But honestly, from the DJs who get it - what's the dating scene like for a man who's 6'4, good looking, athletic, and makes over six figures? I feel like I should check most of the boxes at this point but who's to say really? What was your guys' experience like?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mrgoodstuff

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I'm actually a little fvcking nervous believe it or not because of all the horror stories I read online (written by mostly women, obviously) of how ****ty it is to be 30+ and single. Feels kind of daunting - I've been in a relationship for about three years now since I was 27 and it feels like I'm getting divorced or some ****. I'm old now lmao.

But honestly, from the DJs who get it - what's the dating scene like for a man who's 6'4, good looking, athletic, and makes over six figures? I feel like I should check most of the boxes at this point but who's to say really? What was your guys' experience like?
Your like a powerful and sleek designed computer or phone that's stand alone, not on a network.
 

manfrombelow

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what's the dating scene like for a man who's 6'4, good looking, athletic, and makes over six figures? I feel like I should check most of the boxes at this point but who's to say really? What was your guys' experience like?
Relax man. You are having a much bigger arsenal than many guys out there.
 

Lookatu

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I'm actually a little fvcking nervous believe it or not because of all the horror stories I read online (written by mostly women, obviously) of how ****ty it is to be 30+ and single.
Welcome.
Be glad you discovered SS first of all. Knowing is half the battle.

And since you recently got out of a relationship. Biggest thing is to get your mind our of the relationship mode and get into the dating mode again. This is one of the mistakes I see a lot of guys making.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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