"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Old-post bump! :p

After reading and discussing Robert Pirsig's Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance (great book), I finally got the point of what BBB was saying here.

Take two mountain climbers (This is how it's explained in the book). One climbs the mountain to reach the top and get a free "I climbed the mountain" t-shirt and whatever. He only looks at the end result and fails to enjoy the climb. He's called the ego-climber. Often, since he fails to realize that the zen is in the climbing and not the peak. ("There is very little zen to be found at the top of the mountain. The zen you have up there is the zen that you bought with you") He usually fails because he can not love the climb, and should he reach the top, is happy for a little while and then discontent again.

The "selfless climber" climbs the mountain because he loves the mountain. He is happy on his way up, because he realizes that climbing the mountain is for the challenge, not to get to the top. He does not fall into despair on his way up because he sees the beautiful nature around him and feels that as more important as his goal.

Whee for delayed understanding.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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