"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
About moving.
- Thread starter cognac
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Nah.cognac said:
As LMS would have said, "It's against the natural order of things."
BTW, Cognac, I thought that we were clear about this particular dilemma of yours. You posted a long version of this several weeks ago and you received several slabs of good advice.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
If you would like to try another City,and have equal prospects for finding work.then go for it,a change is as good as a holiday.But as I hear employment opportunities are scarce in the States at the moment,I suggest discretion....Women you lose, like Horses or Dogs that you love and lose,seem irreplaceable at the time,but it is surprising how soon you get over them...Just stay in touch with her,and start revving up a couple of the Plates you have been spinning....You have been spinning Plates,haven't you?
Kailex
Master Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=171293
Because if it is... I hope you do move.
You know what... you should. Maybe then you'll learn the hard way.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
squirrels
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No.cognac said:
If that's your reason for moving, then the answer is no, absolutely not.
Put down the romance novels and think a little.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
Only time I would ever even CONSIDER moving for a woman was if it was my wife, and it was a SUBSTANTIAL pay increase for her (as in, can't turn down money), as well as just a straight peachy move for me as well. I've known a few people who have done this.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
Three months after getting to Columbus, she dumps me and so began the loneliest, most miserable time of my life. I didn't know anybody there, and I had to move into a sh!thole apartment with a floor that crawled.
The moral of the story is, DON'T DO IT.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
wait_out
Master Don Juan
But you grew from the experience and became a stronger man, right?Julius_Seizeher said:
On the other hand perhaps it just sucked
speed dawg said:
At this point, I wouldn't move even for that. I'm building something here, either she can support me and help me or go after what she wants, but I'm never ever again putting my future plans on hold for another woman. I did that once and regretted it, hated myself for it and blamed her and resented her. It caused all sorts of problems. No, if we go our separate ways, even as husband and wife, so be it. Divorce is cheap but the years are long.