Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
About moving.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Nah.cognac said:
As LMS would have said, "It's against the natural order of things."
BTW, Cognac, I thought that we were clear about this particular dilemma of yours. You posted a long version of this several weeks ago and you received several slabs of good advice.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
If you would like to try another City,and have equal prospects for finding work.then go for it,a change is as good as a holiday.But as I hear employment opportunities are scarce in the States at the moment,I suggest discretion....Women you lose, like Horses or Dogs that you love and lose,seem irreplaceable at the time,but it is surprising how soon you get over them...Just stay in touch with her,and start revving up a couple of the Plates you have been spinning....You have been spinning Plates,haven't you?
Kailex
Master Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=171293
Because if it is... I hope you do move.
You know what... you should. Maybe then you'll learn the hard way.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
squirrels
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No.cognac said:
If that's your reason for moving, then the answer is no, absolutely not.
Put down the romance novels and think a little.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
Only time I would ever even CONSIDER moving for a woman was if it was my wife, and it was a SUBSTANTIAL pay increase for her (as in, can't turn down money), as well as just a straight peachy move for me as well. I've known a few people who have done this.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
Three months after getting to Columbus, she dumps me and so began the loneliest, most miserable time of my life. I didn't know anybody there, and I had to move into a sh!thole apartment with a floor that crawled.
The moral of the story is, DON'T DO IT.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
wait_out
Master Don Juan
But you grew from the experience and became a stronger man, right?Julius_Seizeher said:
On the other hand perhaps it just sucked
speed dawg said:
At this point, I wouldn't move even for that. I'm building something here, either she can support me and help me or go after what she wants, but I'm never ever again putting my future plans on hold for another woman. I did that once and regretted it, hated myself for it and blamed her and resented her. It caused all sorts of problems. No, if we go our separate ways, even as husband and wife, so be it. Divorce is cheap but the years are long.