"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Did you actually have a question you were asking or was your post just a statement that you felt like re-iterating.

Your conception of a DJ is being mis-represented. A DJ is all those things you mentioned, and as such a player does have DJ traits but is not a DJ. Like all the noobies, read the DJ Bible.

I agree with Rollo, there seems to been sh1tload of guys responding already making attempts at validation. Even some vets which is sad. If you want help, ask for it. Don't come here seeking attention otherwise you're no different from a troll.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Powerlifter said:
I regretted the earlier post that I have deleted. It was posted after drinking 4 gallons of red wine. I was completely surprised when I read what I posted and know it was all bullsh*t.

Zunder, I no longer powerlift these days but hope to get back into training soon.

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Yes well get back into it, there is nothing like lifting iron for the heart mind and soul.
 
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zekko said:
You're right, talk is cheap and meaningless.
That's why you have to go by actions, not words.
That's exactly what I mean, what someone says to you isn't worth worrying about, it's what they do that counts.

So many women say they aren't "sluts" but their actions suggest the polar opposite.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
It's funny how a post like this provokes all these desperate grasps at validating an idealization. Even an obvious troll post meant to prompt an 'exception to the rule' discussion makes you want to believe that the fantasy could be true.
I don't see jafyk or anybody else here suggesting that the OP is an "idealization" except you. Straw man. No one here is regarding the OP as a "fantasy" either. She's some 21 year old girl who decided to post on a message board.

Some people chose to engage her as a person instead of an enemy, and respond to what she said instead of her gender. Doing that instead of immediately flaming her because she is a woman constitutes a "white knight"? I don't know anyone who acts like this in real life.
Seriously, what the hell is wrong with you people?

She wasn't telling us what to do, she just offered her perceptions. Apparently some people are very frightened when they encounter an opinion that differs from their own.

Her problem is obviously that she stumbled into the all male "He-man Woman Hater's Club", because there was nothing that she said that should have provoked such a reaction. If women aren't welcome to post here, fine. Put it in the FAQ, so you can at least be honest about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zekko said:
I don't see jafyk or anybody else here suggesting that the OP is an "idealization" except you. Straw man. No one here is regarding the OP as a "fantasy" either. She's some 21 year old girl who decided to post on a message board.

Some people chose to engage her as a person instead of an enemy, and respond to what she said instead of her gender. Doing that instead of immediately flaming her because she is a woman constitutes a "white knight"? I don't know anyone who acts like this in real life.
Seriously, what the hell is wrong with you people?

She wasn't telling us what to do, she just offered her perceptions. Apparently some people are very frightened when they encounter an opinion that differs from their own.

Her problem is obviously that she stumbled into the all male "He-man Woman Hater's Club", because there was nothing that she said that should have provoked such a reaction. If women aren't welcome to post here, fine. Put it in the FAQ, so you can at least be honest about it.
Spot on, man. I am in your camp. She said nothing from what I read that should have brought about that sort of animosity. It isn't hard to see who has their backs up about women, who's good at calling out some flaws in her statements (though, this is one woman's opinion; and she is entitled to it) and then a few of us that just take it for what it's worth, offer up our own points of view based on OUR OWN experiences and leave it at that.

I'm quite surprised and, frankly, disappointed by some of the remarks some of these "don juans" conjured up. Have a bit of class, guys. I'd say some of you have some hot buttons and issues with women that you really need to sort out.

She's a girl who offered up her own view of things. She's neither right or wrong. You can disagree or look for merit in some of her points and reply with your stance and your reasons for it.
 

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If she's just now entering med school, it will be 6 years or more before she makes a dime, then a couple-3 years of paying off the loans she had to take out to get thru all her training. Until then, she will HAVE no life, as such. You want to wait on all that? Sheesh.
 

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LadyMD said:
I know that "good girls" aren't the type discussed on this site much
You'd be surprised. This is what people call "girlfriend material" on here. So while we want to sleep with as many girls as possible, only few girls can make the cut to be a true "partner"... or maybe I'm meeting the wrong people ;)

Also I must confess I once dumped a girl who was saving herself for marriage. I didn't do it because of the sex I wasn't getting. But it somehow means that as soon as you're together, you're heading straight down the move-together-marry-have-kids-game-over lane. This is what truly scared me. You have all the chores and responsibilities, but without any of the fun. She was really awesome, and I regretted it, but I turned her down.

P.S. HOLY WEINERFEST BATMAN i didn't realize this has already 6 pages :D
 

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zekko said:
Her problem is obviously that she stumbled into the all male "He-man Woman Hater's Club", because there was nothing that she said that should have provoked such a reaction. If women aren't welcome to post here, fine. Put it in the FAQ, so you can at least be honest about it.
There you go - making ridiculous generalisations. Her sex is not the issue, its the post and the words contained therein - wake the fvck up.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lets see...

1.) She's not like other girls, a diamond in the rough.

2.) She's sad because low SMV males can't get laid by hot chicks.

3.) In all of her 21 years she has extensive knowledge she can pass down to "mature men".

4.) She knows the biggest issue men here have is finding too many "good girls", not enough bad girls to go around.

5.) She's turned off by players (see bullet point 1).

You know what, I could actually believe how she has represented herself.......if I could see a picture that is.
 

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Danger, just for the record sis. Everyone here knows the only thing you have ever screwed is your own butt with your weekly visits to the supermaket to get some different size cucumbers to try on that butt of yours.

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Danger said:
Soooo.....if you find that Rollo's posts are articulate and make sense then.....you must be gay.

Hmmm, can't argue with that logic.
 
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