"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A way of creating mystery

jtb123

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Would making the date a mystery be a good idea? (as like the 3rd date). Giving her short clues every day until the date (Given that the date has been arrange for a day 2 weeks away). Giving her a prize if she gets it such as 'letting her kiss you'?

What do you guys think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KinkyMan

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i think having a date arranged 2 weeks in advance is too long, also i think that you should be upfront and honest about where the date is

however you could take her to coffee or something and then say you are going to go to blah blah which she didnt know about beforehand
 

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I think making it a mystery shows her you're trying too hard. I mean if you're just trying to tag, the better way might be not telling her what you have planned, but the clues thing is a little much.
 

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Theres a good reason why its 2 weeks away as the end of school exams are on.

So do you think I should just tell her where were goin?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Are you the date? Or is wherever you are going the date?

Reframe that ****. It doesn't matter where you go.
 

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Giving her short clues every day until the date (Given that the date has been arrange for a day 2 weeks away)
Unless you're engaged to this chick, or want to be, this is so AFC.
 

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Wrong.

Planning something to do on a certain date with a girl that is into you, and not telling her what it is, will have her thinking about it all the time trying to figure it out. She'll think "omg is it something I hate!" or "Omg what if it's something I love!" and go back and fourth on it until she thinks she has it figured out. She’ll also be thinking about everything you guys did together in the last month for clues as to what it might be.

Emphasis on she is already into you

It's all about how you execute it.

You don't sit there and say Lets go out on the 2nd, but oooo i'm noooot gonna ttelll you where, it's a guuuunnnnna be a surprIIIIIIse.

and be all sappy and stupid.

You say "Don't make any plans for this weekend"
She'll ask why
and you say "[insert your own natural evasive answer here]"

I've done it, works well.

they even might think is all cornball and stupid at first! And even say so, but the reaction AFTER the fact is them thinking about it all the time.

If you think something is AFC, or you think something will not work, and you have no personal first had experience trying it or an experience to reference where it failed…then your opinion is worthless. Further, anyone with any amount of experience knows that all women are different to a certain degree and some will respond very well to something like this where some wont. What people who want to be productive should be doing is posted about how something like that has or has not worked for them in practice and why.

*shakes head*
 
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