A Very AFC New Year

[Cheeks]

So last night I was drunk and alone and pulled a very beta move.

Texted the ex. She played with me a little.

Me: Got plans tonight?

Her: Why do u ask?

Me: For an answer, why else

Her: Why, do you?

Me: I did, they fell through, working on a plan b

Her: Oh so you consider me as a backup plan---how sweet

Me: fairplay, you wouldn't have liked plan A anyway

Her: haha, and what was that?

Me: bungee jumping for Jesus

And then no response after that. In the moment, it seemed like I was doing well but this morning I just feel pathetic.

I guess this is symbolic of just how much I need to move on and let go. With the New Year here I'm feeling like a fresh start is in order, but the emptiness I feel is all-consuming and my ex still haunts my thoughts 24/7. I really wouldn't wish this on anyone.

Going to devote this year to ridding her from my system and focusing on self-improvement. Quit smoking, new job, daily workouts, and eradication of all AFC tendencies.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

While I totally agree with you about moving on and keeping X's just that; I think you were doing well, until your last response. That sounds a bit morbid bro. Think if you would've kept escalating you could have had her come by or meet up.

But in either case, its probably for the best.

Happy NY and keep moving forward!




PIMP

 

[Cheeks]

Yeah, I was trying to come off as ****y and outcome independent. I failed.

 

[Burroughs]

always have your emotions under control BEFORE you start texting.

 

[Desdinova]

LMAO!!! I loved your last response!

But yeah, texting the ex wasn't a great idea. Oh well, just move on from it. Wipe her number off your phone so you won't do it again.

 

[Atom Smasher]

How about this:

Texting is inherently subject to her misinterpreting you.

Drunk texting is a guaranteed fail.

 

[Nutz]

This is why you don't carry on conversations over text.

Me: Got plans tonight? <--asking for attention, bad. Should have opened with something quirky or a non-sequitor to break the ice.

Her: Why do u ask? <--she's not answering, treat this as a rapport break on her part. As a rule, when a woman gives you a rapport break, you give them one right back.

Me: For an answer, why else <--fair response as you're not playing into her frame by answering it

Her: Why, do you? <--she still hasn't answered your question if she has plans

Me: I did, they fell through, working on a plan b <--fail fail fail fail fail!

Her: Oh so you consider me as a backup plan---how sweet

Me: fairplay, you wouldn't have liked plan A anyway <--this was your opportunity to neg, toss out something ****y/funny, or any number of ways to bust on her

 

[Knight's Cross]

Drinking and texting, go together like lamb and tuna fish!
First mistake: alcohol and communications
Second Mistake: Contacting Ex
Third Mistake: Hasn't happened yet. If you repeat First and second mistake, you are up to mistake 3.
STOP NOW MY GOOD SIR!

KC

 

[Cheeks]

This is why you don't carry on conversations over text.

Me: Got plans tonight? <--asking for attention, bad. Should have opened with something quirky or a non-sequitor to break the ice.

Her: Why do u ask? <--she's not answering, treat this as a rapport break on her part. As a rule, when a woman gives you a rapport break, you give them one right back.

Me: For an answer, why else <--fair response as you're not playing into her frame by answering it

Her: Why, do you? <--she still hasn't answered your question if she has plans

Me: I did, they fell through, working on a plan b <--fail fail fail fail fail!

Her: Oh so you consider me as a backup plan---how sweet

Me: fairplay, you wouldn't have liked plan A anyway <--this was your opportunity to neg, toss out something ****y/funny, or any number of ways to bust on her

I'm curious then, how would you have responded to her "Why, do you?" response. I figured by not being specific I could retain an air of mystery but I guess it was a massive fail.

 

[HalfAddict]

Just delete her number man. If you do that there are no mistaken drunken afc texts amirite?

 

[jonathan8940]

Hi...Happy New Year.........!

 

[Nutz]

I'm curious then, how would you have responded to her "Why, do you?" response. I figured by not being specific I could retain an air of mystery but I guess it was a massive fail.

Treat it as a sh!t test, which is a form of a rapport break. Whenever a woman gives you a rapport break, you give one back. The most common response to a sh!t test is:

• Agree & Amplify (to absurdity)
• Ignore it
• Change the subject

My suggestion is to ignore her question by changing the subject.

 

[vatoloco]

This is why you don't carry on conversations over text.

QFT.

"I do not mind simple texting but trying to hold an intelligent conversation is hard over text messages. Thats what my neices and nephews do all day long and thats fine for them. But, I dont expect text messages from grown adults. Quick messages are good."​

Sauce.