"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A thought/self observation about call back rules etc...

kabatura

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I just noticed that now that I am much busier with school and other things when I read a post about when to call a girl back it seems so much clearer to me. The idea of calling 3 days later to make yourself not look desperate or like you have no life. I just wonder how much it is self validation. Proving less to her that you have a life, but more to yourself. Now that I am much busier thought like, she just texted me, I should wait a few minutes to not look like a loser, don't really exist. Why would I need to prove that to her, I know I'm not a loser..

You shouldn't be constantly doing things. It's ok to have lazy time, as long as it's at a healthy level. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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That's why the best and more lasting way to defeating insecurity and building Self Esteem and genuine Self Confidence is to have a good, compellling, and fulfilling life.

Then you know your true worth and value yourself and your time, energy and resources.
And you naturally STOP WORRYING about every little thing.
Micro managing, anxiety, stress...insecurities?

they go away.

Approach Anxiety?

Thing of the past.

When to call?

Pfft. Get real.

What will she think of me?

Not really concerned really....






You are finally seeing the Basic Principle of living the DJ life.

This is good.
 

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Excellent post, kabatura. The Pook is with you.
 
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