"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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A thought/self observation about call back rules etc...

kabatura

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I just noticed that now that I am much busier with school and other things when I read a post about when to call a girl back it seems so much clearer to me. The idea of calling 3 days later to make yourself not look desperate or like you have no life. I just wonder how much it is self validation. Proving less to her that you have a life, but more to yourself. Now that I am much busier thought like, she just texted me, I should wait a few minutes to not look like a loser, don't really exist. Why would I need to prove that to her, I know I'm not a loser..

You shouldn't be constantly doing things. It's ok to have lazy time, as long as it's at a healthy level. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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That's why the best and more lasting way to defeating insecurity and building Self Esteem and genuine Self Confidence is to have a good, compellling, and fulfilling life.

Then you know your true worth and value yourself and your time, energy and resources.
And you naturally STOP WORRYING about every little thing.
Micro managing, anxiety, stress...insecurities?

they go away.

Approach Anxiety?

Thing of the past.

When to call?

Pfft. Get real.

What will she think of me?

Not really concerned really....






You are finally seeing the Basic Principle of living the DJ life.

This is good.
 

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Excellent post, kabatura. The Pook is with you.
 
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