"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A thought/self observation about call back rules etc...

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I just noticed that now that I am much busier with school and other things when I read a post about when to call a girl back it seems so much clearer to me. The idea of calling 3 days later to make yourself not look desperate or like you have no life. I just wonder how much it is self validation. Proving less to her that you have a life, but more to yourself. Now that I am much busier thought like, she just texted me, I should wait a few minutes to not look like a loser, don't really exist. Why would I need to prove that to her, I know I'm not a loser..

You shouldn't be constantly doing things. It's ok to have lazy time, as long as it's at a healthy level. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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That's why the best and more lasting way to defeating insecurity and building Self Esteem and genuine Self Confidence is to have a good, compellling, and fulfilling life.

Then you know your true worth and value yourself and your time, energy and resources.
And you naturally STOP WORRYING about every little thing.
Micro managing, anxiety, stress...insecurities?

they go away.

Approach Anxiety?

Thing of the past.

When to call?

Pfft. Get real.

What will she think of me?

Not really concerned really....






You are finally seeing the Basic Principle of living the DJ life.

This is good.
 
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Excellent post, kabatura. The Pook is with you.
 
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