"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A tale of subtle rejection!

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1. new girl at my job for 4 weeks so far we click and talk alot and get along every very well

2. we been to lunch together 4 times.. i asked her 2 times she asked me two times..

3. we have long convos all the time bout everything.. but im not pushing anything at all just being cool and friendly

4. So i told her we should hang out outside work she said cool... so i suggested d last sat but she had a wedding to go to so she countered with this week! So i tuesday i said let get drinks after work and she said she was busy but thursday (today) is cool...lol

5. so today goes by normal and i say so we on for tonight and she acts like she almost forgot.. then starts saying she is tired.. then she asks where we going and tries to chose the place... im like i have a cool spot.. then she says what time cause she wants to take a nap but might not wake up..lol so we agree on 9pm so im like of i will pick you up... she says no i can just meet you there...lol

6. so ok fast for ward to 8:24pm at which time she texts me this great flake out - "Would u mind terribly if we reschedule for next week?I locked myself
out of the house like a genius and had to find a way to break back in.
Now my mood is just plain foul."...

This is so funny cause i was laying in bed before she texted me thinking to myself that this is a situation where i need to have the strength to flake on her before she flakes o me but she beat me to it... lololol

7. so all the red flags were there and plain to see.. when you see those signs you know what is coming..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hey there.

IMO, having lunch isn't something to be happy about. Lunch time during working hours is even worst (she has no company besides you, since she's new).
Dinner is always preferable.

But somehow it is good that she requested for lunch with you, showing that she really isn't that uninterested. But girls are girls.

Long convos at working hours or after?

Tell you what. On the next meeting (if there is any), go get a movie with her. Just you and her! Try to hold her hands while watching, but not too desperately, and not for too long.

Good luck! And know that her actions mean alot too!
 
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you are so right cause lunch during work is casual but the dinner is what has meaning.... so that is the one she won't do... all the signs of bs were there I just desided to play along... I knew she was Oma flake out she is 31 years old but acting like she is 18.. oh well
 
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you are so right cause lunch during work is casual but the dinner is what has meaning.... so that is the one she won't do... all the signs of bs were there I just desided to play along... I knew she was Oma flake out she is 31 years old but acting like she is 18.. oh well
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't be so disappointed yet.. Try the movie. Grab the hand.

If she likes it, you'll know. (doesn't pull away)
If she doesn't like it, you'll know. (pulls violently away. LOL)
 
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Zarky,

One fvcking fine day you will know why.
As we move out of college/high school (in still schooling btw), the opportunities for hanging out with people (social) will be lesser and lesser.

Occasionally we still hang out with old friends, then we're in the friend-zone. Then we figured. Damn! Now i've only my colleauges at work to hang out with. Not everyone has as many "friends" as you dude.
 
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you are so right cause lunch during work is casual but the dinner is what has meaning.... so that is the one she won't do... all the signs of bs were there I just desided to play along... I knew she was Oma flake out she is 31 years old but acting like she is 18.. oh well
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I don't think she really did anything out of the ordinary. Most women don't have the guts to tell a guy a straight no or not interested. She's just trying to spare your feelings as well as her feelings.

Don't be persistent with this one, you work with her and risk harrassment if you do so. Next.
 
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FutureSpartan said:
I don't think she really did anything out of the ordinary. Most women don't have the guts to tell a guy a straight no or not interested. She's just trying to spare your feelings as well as her feelings.

Don't be persistent with this one, you work with her and risk harrassment if you do so. Next.
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um i have never been forward or tried anything at all we have been mutually cool.. i have made no advances at all.. im not gona act silly cause i really just wanted to hang with her more to get to know her better if she doesnt want to thats kool.. i never harass women i dont even chase them...lol
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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