A tale of subtle rejection!

[DonGorgon]

1. new girl at my job for 4 weeks so far we click and talk alot and get along every very well

2. we been to lunch together 4 times.. i asked her 2 times she asked me two times..

3. we have long convos all the time bout everything.. but im not pushing anything at all just being cool and friendly

4. So i told her we should hang out outside work she said cool... so i suggested d last sat but she had a wedding to go to so she countered with this week! So i tuesday i said let get drinks after work and she said she was busy but thursday (today) is cool...lol

5. so today goes by normal and i say so we on for tonight and she acts like she almost forgot.. then starts saying she is tired.. then she asks where we going and tries to chose the place... im like i have a cool spot.. then she says what time cause she wants to take a nap but might not wake up..lol so we agree on 9pm so im like of i will pick you up... she says no i can just meet you there...lol

6. so ok fast for ward to 8:24pm at which time she texts me this great flake out - "Would u mind terribly if we reschedule for next week?I locked myself
out of the house like a genius and had to find a way to break back in.
Now my mood is just plain foul."...

This is so funny cause i was laying in bed before she texted me thinking to myself that this is a situation where i need to have the strength to flake on her before she flakes o me but she beat me to it... lololol

7. so all the red flags were there and plain to see.. when you see those signs you know what is coming..

 

[Sherlock-Holmes]

Hey there.

IMO, having lunch isn't something to be happy about. Lunch time during working hours is even worst (she has no company besides you, since she's new).
Dinner is always preferable.

But somehow it is good that she requested for lunch with you, showing that she really isn't that uninterested. But girls are girls.

Long convos at working hours or after?

Tell you what. On the next meeting (if there is any), go get a movie with her. Just you and her! Try to hold her hands while watching, but not too desperately, and not for too long.

Good luck! And know that her actions mean alot too!

 

[Tazman]

The gut never lies...

 

[DonGorgon]

you are so right cause lunch during work is casual but the dinner is what has meaning.... so that is the one she won't do... all the signs of bs were there I just desided to play along... I knew she was Oma flake out she is 31 years old but acting like she is 18.. oh well

 

[DonGorgon]

you are so right cause lunch during work is casual but the dinner is what has meaning.... so that is the one she won't do... all the signs of bs were there I just desided to play along... I knew she was Oma flake out she is 31 years old but acting like she is 18.. oh well

 

[Sherlock-Holmes]

Don't be so disappointed yet.. Try the movie. Grab the hand.

If she likes it, you'll know. (doesn't pull away)
If she doesn't like it, you'll know. (pulls violently away. LOL)

 

[Zarky]

I'm constantly amazed at why dudes insist on trying to date chicks from work.

 

[Sherlock-Holmes]

Zarky,

One fvcking fine day you will know why.
As we move out of college/high school (in still schooling btw), the opportunities for hanging out with people (social) will be lesser and lesser.

Occasionally we still hang out with old friends, then we're in the friend-zone. Then we figured. Damn! Now i've only my colleauges at work to hang out with. Not everyone has as many "friends" as you dude.

 

[FutureSpartan]

you are so right cause lunch during work is casual but the dinner is what has meaning.... so that is the one she won't do... all the signs of bs were there I just desided to play along... I knew she was Oma flake out she is 31 years old but acting like she is 18.. oh well

I don't think she really did anything out of the ordinary. Most women don't have the guts to tell a guy a straight no or not interested. She's just trying to spare your feelings as well as her feelings.

Don't be persistent with this one, you work with her and risk harrassment if you do so. Next.

 

[DonGorgon]

I don't think she really did anything out of the ordinary. Most women don't have the guts to tell a guy a straight no or not interested. She's just trying to spare your feelings as well as her feelings.

Don't be persistent with this one, you work with her and risk harrassment if you do so. Next.

um i have never been forward or tried anything at all we have been mutually cool.. i have made no advances at all.. im not gona act silly cause i really just wanted to hang with her more to get to know her better if she doesnt want to thats kool.. i never harass women i dont even chase them...lol

 

[DonGorgon]

I'm constantly amazed at why dudes insist on trying to date chicks from work.

people F folks at work all the time they just lie about it alot...lol