"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A Suggestion for the Workplace

Uncharted

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I know everyone says "don't dip your pen in the company ink", and I totally agree with that.

BUT - work is a place you spend 40+ hours a week, every week. It's the ideal place to start getting your confidence up for the "real world". I work in a 260-person company and I try to talk to or say hi to all of the women I run into. Since I started doing this about 3 years ago, I've noticed it's definitely made doing cold approaches easier.

I also work on my push/pull stuff (especially talking to and then ignoring the HB8-9s). I noticed it definitely drives them a little crazy. Today, for example I was at another woman's desk (married HB6 not even interested), just bullsh!tting about the snow while doing some real work, and I noticed a HB9 that I've been ignoring kept getting up and walking by. She kept trying to make eye contact but I ignored her. She even came by and mentioned some insignificant thing to the woman I was talking to. Makes you feel good about yourself.

Of course, I would never condone dating or fvcking a coworker. Just a fun way to train yourself what to do outside of work!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good post!

Take it one step further.

Talk to women everywhere.

Don't limit yourself to the notion of "pick up" either.

Talk to everyone. If you frequent certain stores, places, etc. chat the people up who work there. Introduce yourself to people. Get to know others. Challenge yourself everyday to meet some one new. When you get good at that go another step further and start approaching groups of people.

It's ALL about social skills and the best pick up artists, seducers, DJs, etc know how to socialize and are experts in any social situation.
 

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Um yeah... i'm guilty of the work thing. I spend too much time working not to game women there. I've never really been burned, but i'm pretty careful too. Best advice I can give when hanging out with co-workers you are interested in is not to drink too much, and to tell them exactly where you are in life.

"Right now, i'm not looking for a GF i'm having too much fun."

If she still want's to hang out after hearing that you are GO!
 

foreverAFC

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Uncharted said:
I also work on my push/pull stuff (especially talking to and then ignoring the HB8-9s). I noticed it definitely drives them a little crazy. Today, for example I was at another woman's desk (married HB6 not even interested), just bullsh!tting about the snow while doing some real work, and I noticed a HB9 that I've been ignoring kept getting up and walking by. She kept trying to make eye contact but I ignored her. She even came by and mentioned some insignificant thing to the woman I was talking to. Makes you feel good about yourself.

these are a bunch of mind games though, i mean where can you really go with this?
 

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foreverAFC said:
these are a bunch of mind games though, i mean where can you really go with this?
Just reinforces your skills to use elsewhere. I have no intention of ever asking this girl out. Haven't you ever flirted with a chick just to flirt?

It's just an ego boost to be "chased" for attention, that's all. Confidence booster. No harm no foul.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Slickster said:
Talk to everyone. If you frequent certain stores, places, etc. chat the people up who work there. Introduce yourself to people. Get to know others. Challenge yourself everyday to meet some one new. When you get good at that go another step further and start approaching groups of people.

It's ALL about social skills.
This.
 
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