"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

A Suggestion for the Workplace

Uncharted

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 1, 2013
Messages
740
Reaction score
47
Location
Brooklyn, NY
I know everyone says "don't dip your pen in the company ink", and I totally agree with that.

BUT - work is a place you spend 40+ hours a week, every week. It's the ideal place to start getting your confidence up for the "real world". I work in a 260-person company and I try to talk to or say hi to all of the women I run into. Since I started doing this about 3 years ago, I've noticed it's definitely made doing cold approaches easier.

I also work on my push/pull stuff (especially talking to and then ignoring the HB8-9s). I noticed it definitely drives them a little crazy. Today, for example I was at another woman's desk (married HB6 not even interested), just bullsh!tting about the snow while doing some real work, and I noticed a HB9 that I've been ignoring kept getting up and walking by. She kept trying to make eye contact but I ignored her. She even came by and mentioned some insignificant thing to the woman I was talking to. Makes you feel good about yourself.

Of course, I would never condone dating or fvcking a coworker. Just a fun way to train yourself what to do outside of work!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Slickster

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 1, 2003
Messages
2,517
Reaction score
215
Location
Canada
Good post!

Take it one step further.

Talk to women everywhere.

Don't limit yourself to the notion of "pick up" either.

Talk to everyone. If you frequent certain stores, places, etc. chat the people up who work there. Introduce yourself to people. Get to know others. Challenge yourself everyday to meet some one new. When you get good at that go another step further and start approaching groups of people.

It's ALL about social skills and the best pick up artists, seducers, DJs, etc know how to socialize and are experts in any social situation.
 

SgtSplacker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2011
Messages
2,039
Reaction score
504
Um yeah... i'm guilty of the work thing. I spend too much time working not to game women there. I've never really been burned, but i'm pretty careful too. Best advice I can give when hanging out with co-workers you are interested in is not to drink too much, and to tell them exactly where you are in life.

"Right now, i'm not looking for a GF i'm having too much fun."

If she still want's to hang out after hearing that you are GO!
 

foreverAFC

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 31, 2012
Messages
1,202
Reaction score
137
Uncharted said:
I also work on my push/pull stuff (especially talking to and then ignoring the HB8-9s). I noticed it definitely drives them a little crazy. Today, for example I was at another woman's desk (married HB6 not even interested), just bullsh!tting about the snow while doing some real work, and I noticed a HB9 that I've been ignoring kept getting up and walking by. She kept trying to make eye contact but I ignored her. She even came by and mentioned some insignificant thing to the woman I was talking to. Makes you feel good about yourself.

these are a bunch of mind games though, i mean where can you really go with this?
 

Uncharted

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 1, 2013
Messages
740
Reaction score
47
Location
Brooklyn, NY
foreverAFC said:
these are a bunch of mind games though, i mean where can you really go with this?
Just reinforces your skills to use elsewhere. I have no intention of ever asking this girl out. Haven't you ever flirted with a chick just to flirt?

It's just an ego boost to be "chased" for attention, that's all. Confidence booster. No harm no foul.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Darth

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 20, 2005
Messages
1,626
Reaction score
98
Age
36
Slickster said:
Talk to everyone. If you frequent certain stores, places, etc. chat the people up who work there. Introduce yourself to people. Get to know others. Challenge yourself everyday to meet some one new. When you get good at that go another step further and start approaching groups of people.

It's ALL about social skills.
This.
 
Top