"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A Suggestion for the Workplace

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I know everyone says "don't dip your pen in the company ink", and I totally agree with that.

BUT - work is a place you spend 40+ hours a week, every week. It's the ideal place to start getting your confidence up for the "real world". I work in a 260-person company and I try to talk to or say hi to all of the women I run into. Since I started doing this about 3 years ago, I've noticed it's definitely made doing cold approaches easier.

I also work on my push/pull stuff (especially talking to and then ignoring the HB8-9s). I noticed it definitely drives them a little crazy. Today, for example I was at another woman's desk (married HB6 not even interested), just bullsh!tting about the snow while doing some real work, and I noticed a HB9 that I've been ignoring kept getting up and walking by. She kept trying to make eye contact but I ignored her. She even came by and mentioned some insignificant thing to the woman I was talking to. Makes you feel good about yourself.

Of course, I would never condone dating or fvcking a coworker. Just a fun way to train yourself what to do outside of work!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Good post!

Take it one step further.

Talk to women everywhere.

Don't limit yourself to the notion of "pick up" either.

Talk to everyone. If you frequent certain stores, places, etc. chat the people up who work there. Introduce yourself to people. Get to know others. Challenge yourself everyday to meet some one new. When you get good at that go another step further and start approaching groups of people.

It's ALL about social skills and the best pick up artists, seducers, DJs, etc know how to socialize and are experts in any social situation.
 

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Um yeah... i'm guilty of the work thing. I spend too much time working not to game women there. I've never really been burned, but i'm pretty careful too. Best advice I can give when hanging out with co-workers you are interested in is not to drink too much, and to tell them exactly where you are in life.

"Right now, i'm not looking for a GF i'm having too much fun."

If she still want's to hang out after hearing that you are GO!
 

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Uncharted said:
I also work on my push/pull stuff (especially talking to and then ignoring the HB8-9s). I noticed it definitely drives them a little crazy. Today, for example I was at another woman's desk (married HB6 not even interested), just bullsh!tting about the snow while doing some real work, and I noticed a HB9 that I've been ignoring kept getting up and walking by. She kept trying to make eye contact but I ignored her. She even came by and mentioned some insignificant thing to the woman I was talking to. Makes you feel good about yourself.

these are a bunch of mind games though, i mean where can you really go with this?
 

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foreverAFC said:
these are a bunch of mind games though, i mean where can you really go with this?
Just reinforces your skills to use elsewhere. I have no intention of ever asking this girl out. Haven't you ever flirted with a chick just to flirt?

It's just an ego boost to be "chased" for attention, that's all. Confidence booster. No harm no foul.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Slickster said:
Talk to everyone. If you frequent certain stores, places, etc. chat the people up who work there. Introduce yourself to people. Get to know others. Challenge yourself everyday to meet some one new. When you get good at that go another step further and start approaching groups of people.

It's ALL about social skills.
This.
 
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