"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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a slight dilemna

jfighter27

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Well I am in a very awkward situation right now. There was a 14 y/o girl that had a crush on me, I wasnt really that into her, but I considered dating her, mainly because she is almost four years younger than me, and also because my best friend was strongly persuading me not to. Well my best friend at the time was in a relationship of two years. Just recently they broke up, and strangely enough it is because my friend, who happens to be 18, had the hots for the girl who used like me. I was a little pissed obviously, seeing as how my friend was a complete hypocrite. Im over that now, because I realized that i didnt really like the girl much anyways.

Now my problem is that I really like my friends ex. Im a little unsure of how to go about this, seeing as how they dated for 2yrs and i dont know what the waiting period typically is. Know I konw its never a good idea to go after a girl like this, who just got dumped, but I really like her, and more than just a crush. Ive been talking to her alot lately, and since they broke up, I have told her how I felt about her. Apperantly she likes me too, buttt she is really not in a good mental state right now.. so im really not sure what to do at this point, if she wasnt that important to me then I would move on. but i really think there is more to it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Damian

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Move on. If this girl gets more involved in your life, it will only lead to bad things. Your friend probably broke up with her for a reason. Plus, she's goddamn 14 years old. Find somebody your own age.

-Damian
 
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