"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
A recent situation i need help with before its too late
- Thread starter jwei44
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You are giving off the dreaded "Creeper" vibe. You don't mean to but adolescent girls spread the news like wildfire and it will really hurt your game in highschool, you NEED to leave her be. That is...if you plan on getting your d!ck wet in your highschool years.
The worst thing you can do right now is talk to her at all, if she texts you...ignore her, if she calls....ignore it...., if she says hi to you @ school in person go ahead and wave...but keep your chin up and roll on by. This will eliminate your creep status from her mind. You really need to adhere to this advice or your setting yourself up for failure over a girl that is not worth your time.
Gotta look at things outside of the box. Can you imagine what she is saying to her friends? About the guy that is always looking at her from across the way, or passing by the lunch table and feebly muttering "hi/hello". Those girls then tell other girls and its a huge fvckfest for your reputation....which is important at your age.
Find a new chick for us to help you with, that you have a pretty fresh start with. Then make a topic, and we will coach you from the earliest of stages.
Good luck, and hope you get something new for us to give you a hand with.^^:wave:pvf94 said:yea bro, the absolute best thing you can do right now....is to let this one go.
You are giving off the dreaded "Creeper" vibe. You don't mean to but adolescent girls spread the news like wildfire and it will really hurt your game in highschool, you NEED to leave her be. That is...if you plan on getting your d!ck wet in your highschool years.
The worst thing you can do right now is talk to her at all, if she texts you...ignore her, if she calls....ignore it...., if she says hi to you @ school in person go ahead and wave...but keep your chin up and roll on by. This will eliminate your creep status from her mind. You really need to adhere to this advice or your setting yourself up for failure over a girl that is not worth your time.
Gotta look at things outside of the box. Can you imagine what she is saying to her friends? About the guy that is always looking at her from across the way, or passing by the lunch table and feebly muttering "hi/hello". Those girls then tell other girls and its a huge fvckfest for your reputation....which is important at your age.
Find a new chick for us to help you with, that you have a pretty fresh start with. Then make a topic, and we will coach you from the earliest of stages.
jwei44 said:
Didn't I tell you not to contact her?
If you had simply acted cordial, the topic never should have swayed to this. Oh and props to guy above who posted about the "creeper" vibe, I had a bit of trouble explaining that.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i uploaded the pictures cause i was on my iTouch when she talked to me first. but anyway.. just tell me what i should say should she come back as she said in the last IM she sent. Ill cut her out from now on but leave contacts open. I can act cordial like you said, but im moving on just to let you know
ps - dont im her please. she'll think its me and thats going to be bad for my rep or whateverr
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It says I do not have the password?jwei44 said:
I'm editing this because I reached my 10 post limit. Anyways, All I can say is wow..
Not only is she b1tchy, but your coming off as a major creep.
Were you actually iming her from random sn's? I'd like to think you werent, but I've seen alot of friends go down an "internet stalking" road.
Even if you werent, the fact that she associated you with such "stalkerish" tendencies tells alot about what she thinks of you. Hopefully you can understand that. Women associate things with emotion, and sorry buddy but you and "weird, creep, sketch, stalker, loser" are soul mates in her mind.
So the real way you two go in touch was through facebook status? You indirectly said that she used you?
*Sigh*
She even knew about your winter ball plans? Couldnt keep that to yourself?
You also used terms such as "we" and "us", and parting ways when she had no romantic feelings for you. Not only did this destroy whatever hope you had of saving face with her and her friends. Your school reputation could easily be destroyed when she shows her peers what you have been sending so that they can have a good laugh at you. I feel for you man.
I thought there was maybe something to salvage, but she has literally cut you off. There is no tomorrow, or better days.
Cut all contact, do not look at her, and never mention her name. DO NOT SPEAK ABOUT THIS WITH YOUR FRIENDS EITHER. (It will only have more people spreading misinterpreted stories about you)
If anyone asks you about it, just brush it of. Change the subject, or say "what are you talking about?"
Cleanse yourself of this mistake and hope for the best
Be glad your done with her because she is not a quality woman. Try to game other woman as soon as possible.
sageproduct
Banned
1. she's a cold, stuck-up b1tch
2. disgustingly, you have one-itis for her...NO girl should matter so much that you keep wondering what to do if she talks to you or something
3. STOP. IMING/TEXTING. SO. MUCH. it took me years of my young life to learn this, but it doesn't do anything unless you're setting up plans or something or throwing a couple quick jokes. it's hurt you tremendously
4. if you've already read the bible, re-read it
5. stop apologizing and having to explain yourself to her all the time
6. it's ridiculous that you were saying things like "so we go our separate ways" and stuff. from what you said, it looks like you hardly even talked to her. she was right about that much, constant texting and IMing IS annoying and most people will just start ignoring you instead of telling you to stop.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
sageproduct
Banned
Sage, I spelled this exact advice out to him about two or three times. He doesn't seem to be getting it. I broke the whole thing down for him on the previous page and he comes with the same sh1t. Dont bother anymore.sageproduct said:
You will get over it soon enough. Lol
Dude, look your apologizing again. One rule of thumb is only say sorry when you've truly done something wrong. I live by that advice, though others may disagree.jwei44 said:
Instead of saying sorry, just say you feel bad about it. Just like the word I love you has lost alot of meaning in today's society because it is simply overused.
Good luck with the future girls. Post back when you find a date. (Use your friend only has a last option.)
Btw, there are very few guys who actually "get it", and I can't say I'm one of then yet so keep working hard!
If you really want advice, look up "Igetit!" or "Solomon", or eaglez (I can't remember the numbers) who post's alot in the HS forum. They know their stuff.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.