Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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yay! A big negative sh!t fest. I read the first post and decided not to participate.

I had a great cinco de mayo with several number closes and a few drunken kisses.

Bought some new gear today. Gonna look fresh at the lake this weekend.

I'm in good spirits today enjoying life.

I have a decent job and good friends.

My parents love me as well as my daughter.

I'm down 4 lbs! Going to the gym today after work.

Thought I'd post somethings I'm thankful for and happy about instead!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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guru1000 said:
Always remember,

Being angry gives power to the event.

I don't like to give anyone or anything my power.

You are better to let is slide off your shoulder.
Romangod said:
I'm mad because there's too many mad people.
You can go too far with this philosophy. I have the experience. If you bottle it up or let it go too much, you risk either becoming a pu'ssy or blowing up on things that don't deserve it -- generally people weaker than you. Don't confuse being nice and rational with being a coward. Honour demands you get angry at times -- and even giving people the recognition of anger is ok at times. You can honour an opponent, even if you can never give in.

I'd say it depends on how important the matter really is. If all they want is to get a rise put of you, they're obviouslky not deserving of being treated seriously.
 

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DJVladdy said:
Iqqi, how old are you? I thought maybe ur 30-something but I guess ur mad young since you use facebook
Lol I have several friends on facebook who are 30-ish... well done on jumping to baseless conclusions ô.o
 

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  • I'm mad the never-ending battle with dirt on my steering wheel.
  • I'm mad at my gastrointestinal tract for bowel irregularities.
  • I'm mad I cannot find the terminal velocity of a feather.
  • I'm mad at a recent string of encounters with conspiracy theorists. One of these days, I'm going to write an essay.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm mad that you guys are wasting time qriting down what makes you mad when you can turn this into something postive by gettin up off your tales and doing something about it!!!!!

I'm mad because I have to piss every 15-20mins

damn water lol

:up:
 

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Deep Dish said:
  • I'm mad I cannot find the terminal velocity of a feather.
I tried to think of a smart answer to that and now I'm mad too.

  • I'm mad at a recent string of encounters with conspiracy theorists. One of these days, I'm going to write an essay.
THE ESSAY WILL BRING ABOUT THE APOCALYPSE! THE ILLUMINATI HAVE US ALL!
 

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I'm mad because I live in the middle of nowhere.

I'll be moving soon though so I'm actually happy.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gubby said:
You can go too far with this philosophy. I have the experience. If you bottle it up or let it go too much, you risk either becoming a pu'ssy or blowing up on things that don't deserve it -- generally people weaker than you. Don't confuse being nice and rational with being a coward. Honour demands you get angry at times -- and even giving people the recognition of anger is ok at times. You can honour an opponent, even if you can never give in.
You ADDRESS it, then let it go.

Never harbor resentment. No one or event deserves that much of you.

Honor is built on ACTION, not emotion.
 

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Gubby said:
I tried to think of a smart answer to that and now I'm mad too.
Drat! :cry:
THE ESSAY WILL BRING ABOUT THE APOCALYPSE! THE ILLUMINATI HAVE US ALL!
Oh noes! :nervous:

;)
 

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And what is action built on?
Application of a decision.

Just because you THINK it or FEEL it, does not mean you will ACT on it.

A decision may be motivated by emotion. But it certainly does not guarantee application of it.

Never act on emotion. Leave that to a woman. Your best decisions are made with a clear, concise, unbiased and abundant mind frame.

Then you act.
 

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Man, if you disregard emotion so totally... what are you living for? Your masculine attitude can help you go places... but only something so feminine as the heart can decide for you where exactly is worth going.

Heart and mind must work together in harmony or they are both useless.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The difference is feeling your anger, accepting it and addressing it vs reacting and/or harboring your anger.

You choose.
 

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guru1000 said:
The difference is feeling your anger, accepting it and addressing it vs reacting and/or harboring your anger.

You choose.
I'm not sure we're even in disagreement here :confused:
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Anger is a gift.


Use it wisely.
I think its dangerous not to elaborate on this.

It's only a gift if you recognize it as a signal that something is amiss that most likely involves some corrective action on your part. Did you misperceive someone's actions? Did you not communicate something clearly to someone else which could have led to someone inadvertently violating your personal standards with you? Did you fail at your own personal standards, perhaps?

My point is, in and of itself, it's actually a bad thing if you don't immediately do something about it. Certainly acting with anger leads to irrational behaviors.
 

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azanon said:
My point is, in and of itself, it's actually a bad thing if you don't immediately do something about it. Certainly acting with anger leads to irrational behaviors.
Existence is irrational.

Pure rationality taken to its logical conclusion is nihilism.

Just throwing out ideas here.:D
 

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Gubby said:
Existence is irrational.

Pure rationality taken to its logical conclusion is nihilism.

Just throwing out ideas here.:D
I would say your base assumption is wrong. Existence is very rational. I have a Masters in "rational". If the world wasn't predictable, repeatable, testable, explainable (Darwinian), etc. we'd have to close up our modern-day science classrooms. Psychology (RT's field) also relies a lot on studying "norms" and comparing "outliers" (those who act "abnormally") to the general rule.

The exception is the irrational, and if there should be any world religion, it should be nihilism. I'm more a fan of "humanism" though, since it has a positive spin to it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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