"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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a quick tip for those insecure with there looks

quest

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hi guys.

i have a tip for everyone who is a little self concious about there looks (much like i am).

if you pick up a girl (no matter how good looking) and get her number don't let her looks scare you, don't feel as though she is out of your league. because once you have picked her up you've proven that she is attracted to you and from that point looks matter less and less and your personality and the way you play the game will determine your success with this girl.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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if you pick up a girl (no matter how good looking) and get her number don't let her looks scare you, don't feel as though she is out of your league. because once you have picked her up you've proven that she is attracted to you and from that point looks matter less and less and your personality and the way you play the game will determine your success with this girl.
Wrong.

That's what you should be thinking before you even approach her!

Mav
 

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true. you should be thinking that.
but in the past i found that i let great girls go because i put them on a pedastool. i was thinking, how can like me? they are much better looking.

now, getting a kiss and some digits is quite easy (i find) but then continuing to see them i have always found was quite difficult because i would turn AFC. after finding this site i've seen the errors of my ways and this is something important which i have realised. and if your not good looking but have a good looking chick, my point is. DON'T feel as though she is too good, because you WILL lose her. you must realise that she is interested in you, so game on like you would an average chick.
 

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You're always more critical of yourself than other people are. The other day a girl I had just met told me she really likes my teeth. Now, I don't think my teeth are bad, but they aren't dazzling or my best aspect. It certainly changed my outlook.
 

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girls give out all the time, it means nothing. You can start thinking that after you've been on a date or two with her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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