"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A quick question

Hammer79

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A woman starting talking to me when I was the grocery this past sunday and with a little luck it happened to be the type of girl I'm attracted to. So after talking to her for a bit I got the feeling from her body language that she seemed to be into me. I asked her out and she said yes but didn't have my cell phone on my to save her number or anything to write her number on and neither did she but she asked me what my last name was and that she would add me to facebook. After a few days I got no friend request but I knew some people who work at the hospital where she told me she works and one of them happened to know her name, so I added her and sent a small message asking how things are going. Well she accepted the friend request but didn't reply to my message. So would it be a sign that she's not interested since she didn't initially add me herself or reply to the message? I know I know, I'm saying to myself Billy your acting a little needy but its hardy not to get excited when you get yes from a girl your attracted to when you haven't had much luck.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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omega05

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It's like you're already counting yourself out of the race before it began. Just try to catch her on fb chat and chat with her
 

Dukester101

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You said she works at a hospital? Maybe she's busy and didnt have the time to chat or write a message?

You never know. I wouldnt rule it out just yet, but dont be too heartbroken if nothing develops. Just be willing to pick up and move on.
 

Romjuan

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ive had a similar situation and the girl kept giving me excuses not to go out. i would say she isnt interested but at this point you have nothing to lose so you might as well ask her for her phone number then ask her out over the phone.
 
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