All girls are different, each one requires a different mixture, some may need very little ****y and lots of funny... some may want almost none of either or lots of both. It all boils down to being able to read them... gotta get used to reading body language and other mannerisms that suggest they are uncomfortable with your approach, so you can tell when to tone things down or turn up the heat. I know this is kinda useless, but I can't describe what cues tell me when to change gears or stay on track... After years of developing my social skills all I can say is that I've learned to read people like it's an instinct.