"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Let's say you asked this girl out on this day, and she said she's not free due to blah blah blah. And we're giving her 3 chances. How long would you wait before you try to get her out again? :moon:
 

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Did she counter offer. Think about this logically if a hot chick asked you out but you had plans, you would say I am busy on friday but how is saturday, you would make plans with her. If she gave you no feedback or a counter she is not interested. At best do not talk to her for 5 - 6 days then call her up and ask her out. Let her think you are popular, and busy. If you keep asking her out, doing what your doing, you are going to get the same result.
 
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What you have to do is ask her if she wants to hang out and then if she says yes, ask her when she'll be available.
It's really hard when a girl is being passive agressive though and you have to address the issue.

"I feel like you'd rather not hang out because it seems like you're always busy. Please be honest with me and let me know if you want to or not."

She'll be impressed with your honesty there if thats a side of you shes never seen.
 
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I'm in the Mood said:
What you have to do is ask her if she wants to hang out and then if she says yes, ask her when she'll be available.
It's really hard when a girl is being passive agressive though and you have to address the issue.

"I feel like you'd rather not hang out because it seems like you're always busy. Please be honest with me and let me know if you want to or not."

She'll be impressed with your honesty there if thats a side of you shes never seen.
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This sounds like supplication.

I always try to make the dates for the same day. Call her up one morning and ask her if she wants to do X with you in a couple hours. Try to make sure in advance that she will be available at that time.

Persistance is a good trait too have as long as you have the confidence and the personality to go along with it. But you must know when persistance is just wasting your time, and move on.
 
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Dont bother calling her. You gave it 3 tries and were passed up, its time to move on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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