So over the summer I met a woman who I got to be attracted to me. I didn't really run routines or game on purpose, it just came naturally. As they say, after a while game is internalized. Anyhow, I had a girlfriend at the time and it gave me some pleasure to put her into the friendzone. The attraction stayed, and this (I have to admit) was a boost to my ego. To this day, the attraction is there. However, the longer I put her in the friendzone the lower it will be. That's not the issue though. The issue is I fear my ego is now dependent on her being attracted to me. I know this is bad. Any suggestions as to what I can do to make sure this doesnt happen? Control my ego?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A question for the experienced/masters. Involving Ego.
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