So over the summer I met a woman who I got to be attracted to me. I didn't really run routines or game on purpose, it just came naturally. As they say, after a while game is internalized. Anyhow, I had a girlfriend at the time and it gave me some pleasure to put her into the friendzone. The attraction stayed, and this (I have to admit) was a boost to my ego. To this day, the attraction is there. However, the longer I put her in the friendzone the lower it will be. That's not the issue though. The issue is I fear my ego is now dependent on her being attracted to me. I know this is bad. Any suggestions as to what I can do to make sure this doesnt happen? Control my ego?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
A question for the experienced/masters. Involving Ego.
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