I have this problem where I lose sexual interest in any girl that I am dating for a while. I was like an animal with my new GF and now I am already losing interest in that area and find myself preferring to just talk and hang out together and kiss more than sex even though she's beautiful. She has a very big sex drive. I still have sex with her very often...but I can't seem to stay up for that long...I lose interest quickly. Has this ever happened to any of you? It's starting to get to me.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
If you want to have something long term with a woman you need more than just sex to sustain it. If sex is the only thing that attracts you to a woman, don't expect more than just that; nothing more.
thats very trueFrancisco d'Anconia said:If you want to have something long term with a woman you need more than just sex to sustain it. If sex is the only thing that attracts you to a woman, don't expect more than just that; nothing more.
Francisco d'Anconia said:If you want to have something long term with a woman you need more than just sex to sustain it. If sex is the only thing that attracts you to a woman, don't expect more than just that; nothing more.
No, I am perfectly content without having sex all of the time. It's the natural lack of interest that concerns me, though. It doesn't seem normal. Me and my GF have the other x-factors where we don't need sex all of the time. But my lack of interest scares me a little and she doesn't have that same lack of interest in the sex department....always ready to go.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You're not getting it. What else is going on in the relationship besides the sex?zinc64 said:No, I am perfectly content without having sex all of the time. It's the natural lack of interest that concerns me, though. It doesn't seem normal. Me and my GF have the other x-factors where we don't need sex all of the time. But my lack of interest scares me a little and she doesn't have that same lack of interest in the sex department....always ready to go.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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You have the libido of a 60 year old and you are with a freak! Can anyone say "sexual incompatibility"?
No, it's some kind of mental thing. Once I have her for a short while, I lose my sexual excitement for her. Maybe this is a sign that I should be single or something???Last Man Standing said:You have the libido of a 60 year old and you are with a freak! Can anyone say "sexual incompatibility"?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So you're not doing anything other than having sex with them?zinc64 said:No, it's some kind of mental thing. Once I have her for a short while, I lose my sexual excitement for her. Maybe this is a sign that I should be single or something???
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
It's more of a validation thing, you've already fuked her and now your not interested. I know a few guys like this who generally have one night stands. You'd have to play with your mind a bit.
For me I'm so focused on pleasuring the chick that I end up never really losing interest anymore, because it's always like "Lets see this time could be better than the BEST time we've had so far."
Your best bet is to have multiple relationships or have a main chick and many fuk buddies/one night stands. At this stage you can't really give her what she wants sexually and this will end the relationship sooner than later because sex is one of the most important things a relationship is built on.
For me I'm so focused on pleasuring the chick that I end up never really losing interest anymore, because it's always like "Lets see this time could be better than the BEST time we've had so far."
Your best bet is to have multiple relationships or have a main chick and many fuk buddies/one night stands. At this stage you can't really give her what she wants sexually and this will end the relationship sooner than later because sex is one of the most important things a relationship is built on.
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Sex is a perk emotion and mental connection are the main bond for LTRs
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Sounds like you want us to tell you to go be a player since you say your gf wants it from you all the time and you lose interest so fast.zinc64 said:No, it's some kind of mental thing. Once I have her for a short while, I lose my sexual excitement for her. Maybe this is a sign that I should be single or something???
If you were into your gf other than the sex, you wouldn't worry.
from what you said, this could have either a psychological or biological explanation. Others have already pointed this out: some guys always want new pvssy and are in the game for the thrills of the pursuit. Once they get it they loose all interest and move on. This happened to me plenty of times, however i don't just get tired of the sex: i can't stand the girl or anything associated with her.
Biologically, you could have lower testosterone levels, which lead to a reduced sex drive. Get those checked if you re really worrying.
one more thing: i understand your girl wants it all the time, but how is she in bed? does she get on top and move those hips or just sits there? i mean if she just lays there like dead meat i can understand why you re having problems
Biologically, you could have lower testosterone levels, which lead to a reduced sex drive. Get those checked if you re really worrying.
one more thing: i understand your girl wants it all the time, but how is she in bed? does she get on top and move those hips or just sits there? i mean if she just lays there like dead meat i can understand why you re having problems