I have this problem where I lose sexual interest in any girl that I am dating for a while. I was like an animal with my new GF and now I am already losing interest in that area and find myself preferring to just talk and hang out together and kiss more than sex even though she's beautiful. She has a very big sex drive. I still have sex with her very often...but I can't seem to stay up for that long...I lose interest quickly. Has this ever happened to any of you? It's starting to get to me.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
If you want to have something long term with a woman you need more than just sex to sustain it. If sex is the only thing that attracts you to a woman, don't expect more than just that; nothing more.
thats very trueFrancisco d'Anconia said:If you want to have something long term with a woman you need more than just sex to sustain it. If sex is the only thing that attracts you to a woman, don't expect more than just that; nothing more.
Francisco d'Anconia said:If you want to have something long term with a woman you need more than just sex to sustain it. If sex is the only thing that attracts you to a woman, don't expect more than just that; nothing more.
No, I am perfectly content without having sex all of the time. It's the natural lack of interest that concerns me, though. It doesn't seem normal. Me and my GF have the other x-factors where we don't need sex all of the time. But my lack of interest scares me a little and she doesn't have that same lack of interest in the sex department....always ready to go.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You're not getting it. What else is going on in the relationship besides the sex?zinc64 said:No, I am perfectly content without having sex all of the time. It's the natural lack of interest that concerns me, though. It doesn't seem normal. Me and my GF have the other x-factors where we don't need sex all of the time. But my lack of interest scares me a little and she doesn't have that same lack of interest in the sex department....always ready to go.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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You have the libido of a 60 year old and you are with a freak! Can anyone say "sexual incompatibility"?
No, it's some kind of mental thing. Once I have her for a short while, I lose my sexual excitement for her. Maybe this is a sign that I should be single or something???Last Man Standing said:You have the libido of a 60 year old and you are with a freak! Can anyone say "sexual incompatibility"?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So you're not doing anything other than having sex with them?zinc64 said:No, it's some kind of mental thing. Once I have her for a short while, I lose my sexual excitement for her. Maybe this is a sign that I should be single or something???
Snow Plowman
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It's more of a validation thing, you've already fuked her and now your not interested. I know a few guys like this who generally have one night stands. You'd have to play with your mind a bit.
For me I'm so focused on pleasuring the chick that I end up never really losing interest anymore, because it's always like "Lets see this time could be better than the BEST time we've had so far."
Your best bet is to have multiple relationships or have a main chick and many fuk buddies/one night stands. At this stage you can't really give her what she wants sexually and this will end the relationship sooner than later because sex is one of the most important things a relationship is built on.
For me I'm so focused on pleasuring the chick that I end up never really losing interest anymore, because it's always like "Lets see this time could be better than the BEST time we've had so far."
Your best bet is to have multiple relationships or have a main chick and many fuk buddies/one night stands. At this stage you can't really give her what she wants sexually and this will end the relationship sooner than later because sex is one of the most important things a relationship is built on.
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Sex is a perk emotion and mental connection are the main bond for LTRs
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Sounds like you want us to tell you to go be a player since you say your gf wants it from you all the time and you lose interest so fast.zinc64 said:No, it's some kind of mental thing. Once I have her for a short while, I lose my sexual excitement for her. Maybe this is a sign that I should be single or something???
If you were into your gf other than the sex, you wouldn't worry.
from what you said, this could have either a psychological or biological explanation. Others have already pointed this out: some guys always want new pvssy and are in the game for the thrills of the pursuit. Once they get it they loose all interest and move on. This happened to me plenty of times, however i don't just get tired of the sex: i can't stand the girl or anything associated with her.
Biologically, you could have lower testosterone levels, which lead to a reduced sex drive. Get those checked if you re really worrying.
one more thing: i understand your girl wants it all the time, but how is she in bed? does she get on top and move those hips or just sits there? i mean if she just lays there like dead meat i can understand why you re having problems
Biologically, you could have lower testosterone levels, which lead to a reduced sex drive. Get those checked if you re really worrying.
one more thing: i understand your girl wants it all the time, but how is she in bed? does she get on top and move those hips or just sits there? i mean if she just lays there like dead meat i can understand why you re having problems