"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A new chapter..

Citre

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Seven months ago I hooked up with my friend's (let's call him Dave) ex-gf (but they were still seeing each other and they still are). Dave stopped talking to me but her and I started getting really close. A few months ago Dave started talking to me again and through the entire 7 months that I've been seeing her, she's been seeing Dave as well (everyone was fully aware of it). Well, him and I got sick of her doing this to us (because we both really like her) and we decided that it wasn't right (there was a bunch of other problems too, but they're unimportant) what she was doing to us so we both planned to drop her from our lives at the same time.

Well, plans didn't work out. Now him and her are back together and it's really hard on me. We both still like each other but I really don't want to backstab Dave again, even though it's so tantalizing. I'm pretty sure I could convince her to start seeing me secretly but I'm not sure if that's the best idea. I like her so much and it's hard being just friends but I HAVE to be something. I can't just not talk to her. She's my closest and best friend now.

I don't know what to do. Do I try and carry on a secret relationship with her (like how we had when we first hooked up) or do I deal with us being just friends and hope to eventually get over her? The problem with getting over her is all my friends say it's hard when you still talk to the girl, but as I said earlier, I can't just stop talking to her. I've tried. It's even harder because of all the jealousy I have to put up with because they're together now.

Thanks, guys.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Forget it. It's stupid to be anything but open and honest. In the end, you'd only end up losing both of them as friends, permanently.
 

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I suppose you're right. I'll just have to take the hard, yet more rewarding, way out.
 
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