Every time I shoot my shot women ignore me or say "Oh no!" like I'm an alien or something. On the internet it is even worse... they just block me. As far as I see it there is not any real difference between me and the guys that do get women... so I don't get it. I give up on women, they're weird. Dating isn't for me.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
A Mini-Vent: Just Saying I Give Up On Women
- Thread starter b.l.g.k.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Serenity
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That's how I met my girlfriend, no joke. I had just given up and started doing whatever I wanted, independent of the outcome. I still talked to women, but I had no intention to try get them. Didn't care if what I did could be considered flirting, it wasn't intentional. Strangely enough I found myself in a situation of success at what I had been trying to do for so long, but I wasn't trying anymore.
It wasn't dating any more, it was just "come over to my place" and what happens happens. I was content not going anywhere with it, but I went the ways I previously failed to go. Rejection wasn't rejection anymore it was just "whatever, I'll do some other fun thing today". It just didn't affect me.
So I'm telling you, what you're about to do is the way to freedom and success. Whether you get a woman or not, being unaffected by having or not having one simply cannot fail. Stop taking shots intentionally, do what you feel like doing in the moment and not because you depend upon a desired outcome.
marmel75
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The one constant in all of this is YOU.
Its time you take a cold hard look in the mirror at what you need to work on in your life whether that be taking care of yourself better by going to the gym, dressing better, feeling better about yourself, etc.
If you dont bring much to the table, how can you be upset with women for not bending over backwards for you?
What do you bring to the table that a woman would want? And I'm not talking about what YOU THINK she would want...I'm talking about what she actually would want.
If you talk to many different women under different circumstances and get the same result then its not them, its you.
Its time you take a cold hard look in the mirror at what you need to work on in your life whether that be taking care of yourself better by going to the gym, dressing better, feeling better about yourself, etc.
If you dont bring much to the table, how can you be upset with women for not bending over backwards for you?
What do you bring to the table that a woman would want? And I'm not talking about what YOU THINK she would want...I'm talking about what she actually would want.
If you talk to many different women under different circumstances and get the same result then its not them, its you.
Yeah need a lot more info. I'm not sure how you think a random woman suck kind of post is going to help you.
Life has its ups and downs and so does your dating life.
We advicate two things here self-improvement and understanding the nature of woman. Either of those things will improve your results. Taken together they will improve your results and make your results repeatable.
Life has its ups and downs and so does your dating life.
We advicate two things here self-improvement and understanding the nature of woman. Either of those things will improve your results. Taken together they will improve your results and make your results repeatable.
This guy gets it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.