Every time I shoot my shot women ignore me or say "Oh no!" like I'm an alien or something. On the internet it is even worse... they just block me. As far as I see it there is not any real difference between me and the guys that do get women... so I don't get it. I give up on women, they're weird. Dating isn't for me.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
A Mini-Vent: Just Saying I Give Up On Women
- Thread starter b.l.g.k.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Serenity
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That's how I met my girlfriend, no joke. I had just given up and started doing whatever I wanted, independent of the outcome. I still talked to women, but I had no intention to try get them. Didn't care if what I did could be considered flirting, it wasn't intentional. Strangely enough I found myself in a situation of success at what I had been trying to do for so long, but I wasn't trying anymore.
It wasn't dating any more, it was just "come over to my place" and what happens happens. I was content not going anywhere with it, but I went the ways I previously failed to go. Rejection wasn't rejection anymore it was just "whatever, I'll do some other fun thing today". It just didn't affect me.
So I'm telling you, what you're about to do is the way to freedom and success. Whether you get a woman or not, being unaffected by having or not having one simply cannot fail. Stop taking shots intentionally, do what you feel like doing in the moment and not because you depend upon a desired outcome.
marmel75
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The one constant in all of this is YOU.
Its time you take a cold hard look in the mirror at what you need to work on in your life whether that be taking care of yourself better by going to the gym, dressing better, feeling better about yourself, etc.
If you dont bring much to the table, how can you be upset with women for not bending over backwards for you?
What do you bring to the table that a woman would want? And I'm not talking about what YOU THINK she would want...I'm talking about what she actually would want.
If you talk to many different women under different circumstances and get the same result then its not them, its you.
Its time you take a cold hard look in the mirror at what you need to work on in your life whether that be taking care of yourself better by going to the gym, dressing better, feeling better about yourself, etc.
If you dont bring much to the table, how can you be upset with women for not bending over backwards for you?
What do you bring to the table that a woman would want? And I'm not talking about what YOU THINK she would want...I'm talking about what she actually would want.
If you talk to many different women under different circumstances and get the same result then its not them, its you.
Yeah need a lot more info. I'm not sure how you think a random woman suck kind of post is going to help you.
Life has its ups and downs and so does your dating life.
We advicate two things here self-improvement and understanding the nature of woman. Either of those things will improve your results. Taken together they will improve your results and make your results repeatable.
Life has its ups and downs and so does your dating life.
We advicate two things here self-improvement and understanding the nature of woman. Either of those things will improve your results. Taken together they will improve your results and make your results repeatable.
This guy gets it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.