You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
We're not talking about that. I don't agree with Sean Connery on that part either. It is more his way of being which is this old school way which I guess why the Tv series "Mad Men" because so popular for example...I like real men who don't slap women because they want the last word.
One thing for sure, he will handle disrespect.We're not talking about that. I don't agree with Sean Connery on that part either. It is more his way of being which is this old school way which I guess why the Tv series "Mad Men" because so popular for example...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
With how “woke” the world is becoming guys like Connery will be viewed as pure savages... and gen xers will be thought of as real men.... we were able to get into fights... get and give concussions, broken noses.. without fear of arrest or a lawsuit.... we grew up with two genders... grew up without the internet and actually had to interact in person.... my parents had to sign a permission slip every school year allowing the teachers to discipline me... I actually got paddled in grade school by teachers !!! Imagine that now...Why is it that guys of the older generation where thought to be real men, but today men are mostly weak p'ussies?
You're 39. That's the tail end of Gen X. Paddling in school was supposed to be gone before early Gen X started kindergarten.I actually got paddled in grade school by teachers !!! Imagine that now...
You're 39. That's the tail end of Gen X. Paddling in school was supposed to be gone before early Gen X started kindergarten.
I wish I was still 39... I’m going to turn 41 shortly. I never put my actual dob on an Internet forum. Catholic school had padding until I graduated 8th grade. Went to public highschool and paddling didn’t exist.You're 39. That's the tail end of Gen X. Paddling in school was supposed to be gone before early Gen X started kindergarten.
41 is still the tail end of Gen X (1977-1981). I thought paddling was out of Catholic schools by the end of the 1970s. You said paddling was in your Catholic school until the mid-1990s. I thought paddling was done from public schools even before that (1970). \\I wish I was still 39... I’m going to turn 41 shortly. I never put my actual dob on an Internet forum. Catholic school had padding until I graduated 8th grade. Went to public highschool and paddling didn’t exist.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It's always the previous generation that let it that far.41 is still the tail end of Gen X (1977-1981). I thought paddling was out of Catholic schools by the end of the 1970s. You said paddling was in your Catholic school until the mid-1990s. I thought paddling was done from public schools even before that (1970). \\
Millennials (1982-1996) are a wimpy generation. It's part of why website dating and later swipe apps took off with Millennials. Millennials are too wimpy to cold approach as a whole. Too much soy and processed foods and too much internet porn has made Millennial men soft. Millennial men as children were coddled with self-esteem building stuff during the 1990s and early 2000s in school. Meanwhile, schools in the 1990s were ineffective in discipling children that were getting bullied.
We're now seeing the effects of bad trends in the schools from the 1990s. Millennials were the trophy generation of snowflakes.
I doubt Gen Z is going to be much better.
I guess we grew up in different areas of the US then. In Queens, during the 90s, there was no coddling for me by my parents or anyone else. Are you from California, Washington State, Oregon or somewhere like there?41 is still the tail end of Gen X (1977-1981). I thought paddling was out of Catholic schools by the end of the 1970s. You said paddling was in your Catholic school until the mid-1990s. I thought paddling was done from public schools even before that (1970). \\
Millennials (1982-1996) are a wimpy generation. It's part of why website dating and later swipe apps took off with Millennials. Millennials are too wimpy to cold approach as a whole. Too much soy and processed foods and too much internet porn has made Millennial men soft. Millennial men as children were coddled with self-esteem building stuff during the 1990s and early 2000s in school. Meanwhile, schools in the 1990s were ineffective in discipling children that were getting bullied.
We're now seeing the effects of bad trends in the schools from the 1990s. Millennials were the trophy generation of snowflakes.
I doubt Gen Z is going to be much better.
Which is why the word "snowflakes" is a real thing. (and the term soyboys too).Millennials (1982-1996) are a wimpy generation. It's part of why website dating and later swipe apps took off with Millennials. Millennials are too wimpy to cold approach as a whole. Too much soy and processed foods and too much internet porn has made Millennial men soft.