"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A man is a sum of his memories - The good, the bad and all inbetween.

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As the topic suggest, in particular towards women and how it defines your outlook, your life, your future and your end game.

A man is the sum of his memories, will you set the terms to define your life, future and outlook before you die ?

A man is the sum of his memories, if you have none, then who are you?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Augustus_McCrae

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As the topic suggest, in particular towards women and how it defines your outlook, your life, your future and your end game.

A man is the sum of his memories, will you set the terms to define your life, future and outlook before you die ?

A man is the sum of his memories, if you have none, then who are you?
Looks like we actually agree on something. But addition to his memories, there is also the following which really determine the “sum” of a man:

It is what he has learned from those memories and what he has done to expand his knowledge and wisdom to improve himself as a man.

And with his wisdom and experience, has he formed a set of moral beliefs, a philosophy that he adheres to that practices fairness and kindness to his family, the people he loves, and his fellow man.

And does he have the honesty and integrity to live in accordance with the philosophy he believes in? In essence, do his everyday actions reflect the philosophy he espouses?

-Augustus-
 

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Looks like we actually agree on something. But addition to his memories, there is also the following which really determine the “sum” of a man:

It is what he has learned from those memories and what he has done to expand his knowledge and wisdom to improve himself as a man.

And with his wisdom and experience, has he formed a set of moral beliefs, a philosophy that he adheres to that practices fairness and kindness to his family, the people he loves, and his fellow man.

And does he have the honesty and integrity to live in accordance with the philosophy he believes in? In essence, do his everyday actions reflect the philosophy he espouses?

-Augustus-
What has bigdave17 allowed his memories to be.
 

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We can disagree on many things but we r still "brothers" in SS.

Nice post Augustus.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The more and more I put myself out there and get demoralized a bit, I truly understand what this means.. more so recently, I understand the struggle a man has within himself to except the truth he has to face sometimes. As much as I want to bitter to the reality I face sometimes, I realize it is better to adapt than be upset..

Here's to the process I guess.... (Raises a glass)
 
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