"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A man is a sum of his memories - The good, the bad and all inbetween.

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As the topic suggest, in particular towards women and how it defines your outlook, your life, your future and your end game.

A man is the sum of his memories, will you set the terms to define your life, future and outlook before you die ?

A man is the sum of his memories, if you have none, then who are you?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Augustus_McCrae

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As the topic suggest, in particular towards women and how it defines your outlook, your life, your future and your end game.

A man is the sum of his memories, will you set the terms to define your life, future and outlook before you die ?

A man is the sum of his memories, if you have none, then who are you?
Looks like we actually agree on something. But addition to his memories, there is also the following which really determine the “sum” of a man:

It is what he has learned from those memories and what he has done to expand his knowledge and wisdom to improve himself as a man.

And with his wisdom and experience, has he formed a set of moral beliefs, a philosophy that he adheres to that practices fairness and kindness to his family, the people he loves, and his fellow man.

And does he have the honesty and integrity to live in accordance with the philosophy he believes in? In essence, do his everyday actions reflect the philosophy he espouses?

-Augustus-
 

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Looks like we actually agree on something. But addition to his memories, there is also the following which really determine the “sum” of a man:

It is what he has learned from those memories and what he has done to expand his knowledge and wisdom to improve himself as a man.

And with his wisdom and experience, has he formed a set of moral beliefs, a philosophy that he adheres to that practices fairness and kindness to his family, the people he loves, and his fellow man.

And does he have the honesty and integrity to live in accordance with the philosophy he believes in? In essence, do his everyday actions reflect the philosophy he espouses?

-Augustus-
What has bigdave17 allowed his memories to be.
 

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We can disagree on many things but we r still "brothers" in SS.

Nice post Augustus.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The more and more I put myself out there and get demoralized a bit, I truly understand what this means.. more so recently, I understand the struggle a man has within himself to except the truth he has to face sometimes. As much as I want to bitter to the reality I face sometimes, I realize it is better to adapt than be upset..

Here's to the process I guess.... (Raises a glass)
 
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