"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A Man’s career should be his top priority

jhonny9546

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In a man's life, there must be priorities.
Health comes first. But what comes next? Relationships, sex, women, friends, fun?
A man's career and life path are what make everything else possible.
What brings that man a fullfilling life and money too.

The older I get, the less compatible I feel with corporate culture. After ten years in office environments, I've realized I'm not interested in climbing a corporate ladder by playing politics or competing with others.

I'd rather build my life around my own expertise.

A job gives you a salary, but a skill that people need gives you the opportunity to build something of your own, everywhere in the world.
Think about electricians, plumbers, and other skilled professionals.
They provide real value, solve real problems, and can build independent careers without relying on a corporate structure.

With AI and robotics changing the future of work, I believe practical skills and services that people will always need are worth considering. I'm still trying to find the right path for the man I've become.

Thats the hardest quest, I've actually encountered in my life.

Right now, I've been considered becoming a personal trainer, although I sometimes question whether it's a genuine necessity or simply something people want right now, becaus it's in our first world culture.
Even tho I love taking care of my body, health, and actually make that with no effort, but that still something "extra", and not really a "necessity".

I've spent less time focusing on women lately, choosing instead to understand relationships without losing my independence.
But now I believe a man's success will depend heavily on how well He buils his career and become a man who can stand on his own

I never felt fullfilled by a job that is controlled by someone else, and that will change as fast as culture change.
So I've actually found myself changing 3 position in 10 years.

I actually work as a condo and property manager, and I’ve realized that this isn’t the right career path for me.
Although I know condo managers who generate up to a million in annual revenue, likely netting around 300k a year, it’s just not in my nature to become an expert at lying to people, or foster environments where people turn against one another. I’m not comfortable instilling a little bit of hatred among everyone on a daily basis, badmouthing people behind their backs, or keeping them somewhat in the dark, all while I take a cut or a percentage from the vendors I bring in to work for the building.
I’ve found an interesting field, that makes money, and goes hand by hand with the system, and it is replicable anywhere in the world, but I have to say that I’m simply not cut out for this kind of work.

There is the system we cannot avoid to live in.
In a given city, a builder builds a condo or a house.
The house is sold through a real estate agency to an employee of a company.
This worker will have a job that pays him just enough he can afford this house, and will always be in the hope that in 10 years he will become an important person in that company or increase his income.

Meanwhile, there are the parasites: notaries, lawyers, administrators, real estate agents, sellers, and those who rent houses, etc..
All figures that are created by the system, that are kept up by honest employees.

A lawyer who does a 1-hour job which actually require 5 minute is paid 100 euros, while an employee who does a more demanding and difficult job is paid 10 euros an hour.
And then, obviously, these parasitic figures are the first to complain about the high cost of houses (which they themselves sell), the fact that rents are high (in the real estate market that they themselves control), the fact that there is no work (in a labor market that they themselves control), that salaries are low (salaries that they themselves influence).

Those who have understood the system create a professional figure for themselves and begin to ask for a much higher hourly wage than an employee with the excuse that there are a lot of taxes to pay. But that's never the case. (Taxes are not paid, or are deducted by purchasing resources that will be used to generate wealth in the future)

This is the system.
And if you're a man, all you want to do is keep away from being an employee, and become self-employed.
But in our modern era, it's a war on finding a field of expertise that would work in the next years, and that it's also "in-line" with the system.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Gamisch

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Seems like you've had that epiphany!! Because not too many moons ago you were contemplating a LTR again...

Ofcourse #1 career and a LTR can coexist, but...you'll find out soon that once you go ALL IN, women won't like it as much as you'd think...

In my job field its cool to say " im booked for the whole year". And this is the first time I can sincerely say this. I have TONS of jobs to do, people are literally impatiently waiting for me to come and finish the job..but heres the " downside"; women become a nuisance!!

I have no Time between working a regular job, doing side jobs after work, following courses and being a father. Try to squeeze in "chilling with a woman" in that schedule. There's simply no room and women hate that they love to NOT be your nr 1 priority...
 

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Where you at Johnny boy?

You about to make the best decision in years! Renovating homes seemed to be the thing that FINALLY boosted me to find my final form.

I know some people are in a more fortunate/ better position, but I gotta take care of me. I had to figure out how to go from broke to some. Working at " wallmart" for pennies on a dollar didn't got me there. Not even speaking about the frustration I felt...

Now im running shyte . It takes HARD work yes, but the reward is definite. At some point you'll become a master at your craft and I swear people literally will " cold approach " you to empty their pockets lol( aka provide your services).

Funny thing is WOMEN all of a sudden ALSO position themselves in my proximity more and more.
 

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Should it?

A career is essentially committing to be part of a 45+ year "rat race" with lots of potential for getting fired, being unemployed, laid off, get caught up in mergers/realignment/rightsizing, AI related job losses, etc...

all things out of your control to a large degree. You are told where you have to be and when you have to be there for a majority of your year every year. Sometimes you have to sacrifice your time for working more on top of that.

I think the goal should be financial independence in whatever method gets you there. Career, entrepreneurship, side hustle, etc...

Whatever combination of things that allows for an exit as early as possible from the rat race.

THAT should be the goal...getting out of the "rat race" as early as possible in your life so you can actually live life on your terms and not someone else's.
 
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double down. shovel the coal. get the gold. then freedom.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"career"

just lol.

make as much as you can as young as you can and minimize your expenses while maximizing comfort, free time, and enjoyment of your life.

I worked reasonably hard for 7 years or so then managed to whittle my work week down to 20 hours/week for 3 years.

After that I somehow found high paying jobs that had me working less than 5 hours per week.

Now by 40 my net worth will hit close to a million liquid, and I still look like I'm in my late 20s due to lack of stress and taking care of myself.

"career" is a joke. I find companies and stay if I see that I can exploit them by doing very little work and still getting paid well.

these days I work 3 days/week for the most part unless it's a busy week.
 
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