"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A Little Worried About GF Going to a Party...

foomee

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Well... me and this girl have been dating for four months now, and we're freshman in college and school just ended for us last week. We live about half an hour away from eachother. Well tonight she's going to this party with two of her best friends, and I'm just worried that some guy will hit on her, maybe she'll get drunk and do stuff, who knows. Any advice for this kind of thing? I doubt she'd do anything, but there's always a chance.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jester FPS

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Well, what can you do. One thing for sure is not to become a jealous AFC and start handcuffing her.

Best advice, from a AFC's perspective... (still in transition phase) is to be active yourself and maybe even let her know you're going to do something tonight as well.
 

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Yeah, just don't make a big deal out of it.
My girl sometimes (maybe once a month) goes to club with some of her girlfriends without me. I'm very cool about it, because I also go out without her.
But if you call her the next day, just don't act mad or insecure because she "could" have done something, just ask her how it's been and if she had fun.
The thing is, if you actually start to act all jealous and stuff, she will lose respect for you, and if that happens, she just can't love you anymore.
So... just play it cool. Go to Articles on the Sosuave homepage and read the article Are you the jealous type? by Allen Thompson. Trough that article I came on sosuave in 2000 (My girlfriend at the time dumped me, and I was searching on the net why people are jealous, and that's how I found Allen's article). And guess what, after 2000, I've never been dumped again, since then I've been always in control and I am the one now ending relationships (only if it's necessary ofcourse ;)).
 
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