"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A Little Worried About GF Going to a Party...

foomee

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Well... me and this girl have been dating for four months now, and we're freshman in college and school just ended for us last week. We live about half an hour away from eachother. Well tonight she's going to this party with two of her best friends, and I'm just worried that some guy will hit on her, maybe she'll get drunk and do stuff, who knows. Any advice for this kind of thing? I doubt she'd do anything, but there's always a chance.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jester FPS

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Well, what can you do. One thing for sure is not to become a jealous AFC and start handcuffing her.

Best advice, from a AFC's perspective... (still in transition phase) is to be active yourself and maybe even let her know you're going to do something tonight as well.
 

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Yeah, just don't make a big deal out of it.
My girl sometimes (maybe once a month) goes to club with some of her girlfriends without me. I'm very cool about it, because I also go out without her.
But if you call her the next day, just don't act mad or insecure because she "could" have done something, just ask her how it's been and if she had fun.
The thing is, if you actually start to act all jealous and stuff, she will lose respect for you, and if that happens, she just can't love you anymore.
So... just play it cool. Go to Articles on the Sosuave homepage and read the article Are you the jealous type? by Allen Thompson. Trough that article I came on sosuave in 2000 (My girlfriend at the time dumped me, and I was searching on the net why people are jealous, and that's how I found Allen's article). And guess what, after 2000, I've never been dumped again, since then I've been always in control and I am the one now ending relationships (only if it's necessary ofcourse ;)).
 
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